Qualifiers
I was reading a post of Johnpe1, and he ended it with IMHO. I recognized what he was doing as I have done it a lot in my life. I call it putting qualifiers into anything I say to other people.
Some examples of qualifiers:
IMHO
Well, I may be wrong, but I think.....
I don't mean to disagree with you, but ......
My point is that in my life I have dealt with a lot of jealousy and resentment from other people, and I have tried very hard to deflect it or try to make the other person see that I am a person, too, you don't need to be jealous of me.
The hate inspired by jealousy has been a recurring theme in my life, and I wonder if any other Gulchers have encountered this. Could you tell me if this has happened to you, how it has affected you, and how you have dealt with it?
Recently a person who has fixated on me attacked me through attacking my child, and it has caused me a lot of anxiety and pain, even though in the end my child was able to overcome the considerable obstacles he put in her path in order to hurt me.
I am curious to know if jealousy is something other Gulchers have had to deal with.
And by the way, John, your opinion should be anything but humble. Your comments are intelligent and interesting and often fun.
Some examples of qualifiers:
IMHO
Well, I may be wrong, but I think.....
I don't mean to disagree with you, but ......
My point is that in my life I have dealt with a lot of jealousy and resentment from other people, and I have tried very hard to deflect it or try to make the other person see that I am a person, too, you don't need to be jealous of me.
The hate inspired by jealousy has been a recurring theme in my life, and I wonder if any other Gulchers have encountered this. Could you tell me if this has happened to you, how it has affected you, and how you have dealt with it?
Recently a person who has fixated on me attacked me through attacking my child, and it has caused me a lot of anxiety and pain, even though in the end my child was able to overcome the considerable obstacles he put in her path in order to hurt me.
I am curious to know if jealousy is something other Gulchers have had to deal with.
And by the way, John, your opinion should be anything but humble. Your comments are intelligent and interesting and often fun.
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In this case, I was complaining about your saying to believe is a strict adherence to dogma, because, among other reasons, I believe that you are a gentleman. Left uncorrected, that would be a contradiction, wouldn't it? (Smile, please!)
"Grass is always greener" is not a "fable". It is an irrational expression of envy. The definition of fable, from Wikipedia, is below.
Fable is a literary genre: a succinct fictional story, in prose or verse, that features animals, mythical creatures, plants, inanimate objects, or forces of nature that are anthropomorphized (given human qualities, such as verbal communication) and that illustrates or leads to an interpretation of a moral lesson (a "moral"), which may at the end be added explicitly as a pithy maxim.
Sorry to disagree, but A must be A here.
Happy Friday
What is time really? It is the perception of change from one point to another. Without anything to be subject to change, time doesn't exist. You have to have agents (something that can act on something else) in order to create time in the first place. So what you can really postulate is that the Big Bang coincided (I'm not quite going to use the word causality) with an "explosion" of agents - not just matter.
Concentrate on the truth - not another's perceived shortcomings or excellence because you'll never see the whole story of them. It's the "grass is always greener" fable.
If we are concerned about the truth more than we are concerned about the approval of others, we'll have not only positive discussions, but seek for true answers. If on the other hand we subject ourselves to the whim and pleasure of popular opinion, any sense of principle must fly out the window.
After a while, its use became similar to your 'I can't remember your name' message... :)
If you use either phrase, the best next thing to do is the 'walk away' part!
http://www.plusaf.com/falklaws.htm#50th
and I often use the tag line, 'imnsho'...
In My Never-So-Humble Opinion...
more accurate for me.
:)
However, it is another case completely to use qualifiers when discussing technical matters. There, it is not a matter of one's moral fiber, but technical knowledge, which is, almost by definition, never complete. Thus, predicating one's position with "in my opinion," for example, is just good manners.
As far as the feelings stuff, I don't see the point of discussing them in public. They should be private between you and your shrink, priest, bartender, or close friend of choice.
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