63 Years
Sixty-three years. Just think of it, many people don't even live that long.On August 14th, the BW and I will have been married for that length of time..You might ask, as many have, was it "happily ever after?"Of course not. No one gets through life unscathed. We've had our ups and downs on the roller coaster called life. We are often asked what the secret to a long marriage is.and we both respond, "Damned if I know."There is,however, one thing we know for sure, and that is, there has to be a very strong love, because that 's the only thing that keeps murder or suicide from happening. Also, love creates a degree of tolerance that would be otherwise impossible to sustain. I also keep certain writings, poems, mottos, and aphorisms close that I can fall back on when my glum meter swings to negative .Last, but in no way least, is a good sense of humor, because without it one would be doomed to hell on earth.There are positives. To face life's hardest times with a partner who is an intellectual equal.To know that regardless of any circumstance, there is a person to whom, no matter what, is on your side and can be rational when you are not and you's like to give in to your emotions and @#$%$#@!! that no-good *&^%$%^&!!! So..what's your story?I could be (and most likely is) very different from mine.Come on, it is life lesson time.
There was a lady from Guadaloup,
Who found a fly in her soup,
Said the waiter, "Don't shout
Or wave it about,
For the others will be wanting one too.".
To us, our relationship is very much like a business partnership. Since my wife is a Christian, she considers me the "senior partner", which saves us from getting stuck on certain decisions, as my vote is the tie-breaker (and we ALWAYS discuss major issues).
I respect her place in our relationship. She is a conventional home-maker and I make it a point to recognize her contribution to our partnership on a regular basis. In today's mixed-up world, it's easy to lose site of these values.
We don't steal from each other and we share a substantial amount of trust. Otherwise, how could people share a bed, if they didn't trust one another?
There are other reasons for the longevity of our marriage, but these are the ones we usually bring up, when asked.
Now 55+ years, 4 kids and 6 grandchildren later life is pretty good. People remark about the closeness of our family, the success of the adults and children and how well they have done. It all goes back to that great mother that raised them while I flew out on Monday and back on Friday chasing a career and earning what it took to raise them and send them to college. I could write a book about the bumps along the way but I never doubted that we would end up taking care of each other in our old age.
When Marilynn and I were married we were so young our brains were not yet completely formed. (21 & 20) Lotsa learning since then..
Doesn't help.
I think you're just being cute.
Funny how time goes by as you get older it goes faster. It's all Einstein's fault. .Space-time, what a concept. ..
Hmm...Cute: (original def.): Sooooo UGLY, that in a strange sort of way...kind of interesting.
That is why I'm known as OLD UGLY CARL!...laughing.
Not really a bad attitude, just an observation and a testament of how people change or at least, how we begin to notice... over time.
Didn't know people could get hoof and mouth disease.
That's the best I can do at this time of night...
On special occasions everyone that wants to be "Heeled" goes to the front and receives a cup of sneaker sweat and eats a cookie made of toe jam!
Oui!...this is getting bizarre...
May the ingrown toe nail in the sky be with you.
OK, OK, don't get all up in arms -- you know it's true.
I wrote a book for a 19 year old guy a few years ago to keep him from having to listen to me lecture. In his case, didn't do much good but, nevertheless, I still believe that it could give young men (and women) and idea of what life is going to cost them and how to keep the costs reasonable.
https://www.amazon.com/How-Are-You-Go...
If you have Kindle, I think you can read it for free. Whatever, check it out and read the "look in side" part. If nothing else, when I read it, it gives an idea of my attitude...............
I can only tell that my parents had it. I wasn't that lucky. Apparently it did not come through the genes.
I am happy for you: yours is one of the exceptions rather than the rules.
I laughed for a minute straight!!!!!!!
Happy Anniversary brother.
Not much special in my story; ups and downs, lots of almosts, cried too much along the way, and now don't cry at all which is perhaps the worst of all.
Still looking for mine. That's my story.
Again, congrats on staying together and happy for that much of your life. Stories like yours are rare, and special.
Once again I find myself unable to come up with a smartass reply.
All the best to you and your honey...
And...it was preventable.
Last Saturday was our 39th as we are 61 and 60
We can only hope to live long enough to hit that Mark. My parents just had their 68th and I hope they don't get a 70th year itch.lol
Hold on tight to the bucking bronco of life go with the flow and accept responsibility for your actions. Adoration helps, in my case as I out kicked my punt coverage, family connection , kindness, consideration , value given and received , strong communication, use your reason. Be your best as a habit to your best friend. Find and develope common interests. Stay thirsty my friend!
Life has wound up being pretty good to me. I may be a physical wreck, but I'm walking the tightrope with a little help from my friends. The people who Really count are close and I have only had one event that I can never overcome, which still reminds me of the tragedy of ignorance.