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A sign of the times? My neighbor dispute.

Posted by $ AJAshinoff 8 years, 1 month ago to Culture
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I'm amazed this needed to be said. Has society lost all of its common decency and mutual respect?

Dear Neighbor,

There is a line between our properties, defined by where my wall and your wall meet, which determines ownership. Ownership determines who can make use each property and how it's to be used. I'm writing this because there have been a few instances over the last year where you have seen fit to use the land on the side of my house, my private property, property I own because I pay for it, as your place to store your yard waste. I've been politely moving these branches and pulled weeds back onto your property in a fairly organized way as a subtle reminder that YOU HAVE NO RIGHT or PERMISSION to discard, store or temporarily place ANYTHING of yours on my land. Unfortunately you've chosen, again, to ignore this subtle reminder and put your stuff back on my property. In the spirit of being neighborly I'm writing to remind you that YOU HAVE NO RIGHT OR PERMISSION FROM ME TO BE ON OR PLACE ANYTHING ON MY LAND in hopes that plain English will get through where object lessons have not. I'd greatly appreciate it if you'd follow my example and put your yard waste in the alley or, if bulk trash is a fair distance away, store YOUR TRASH in your back yard until bulk trash is schedules to be picked up.

I do not think this is too much to ask. In fact, I assumed that most people would have the decency to understand this minor degree of respect toward their neighbor and that neighbors property. Suffice it to say, I have a copy of this letter and will use it as proof of "reasonable communication" with you with the proper authorities if you continue putting your trash on my land.

I appreciate your cooperation,

Your Neighbor


Franky, I'm shocked this had to be written.


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  • Posted by $ blarman 8 years, 1 month ago in reply to this comment.
    In the states I've lived in, anything extending out over your property can be trimmed back without permission. This is especially true of large limbs which hold the potential for property damage (like falling on a house or fence).
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  • Posted by rhfinle 8 years, 1 month ago
    The basic tenet of socialism: "What's mine is mine, and what's yours is mine, too." You can add to that: "What's mine and I don't want, is now your responsibility."
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  • Posted by Herb7734 8 years, 1 month ago
    Very frustrating.
    As you know, Florida is prone to hurricanes. My neighbor has a live oak on his property. Live oaks are known for their branches that stretch waaay out from the trunk. In this case, way out over my roof. Repeated urgingings have done nothing and finally, we got Hurricane Irma.It tore many of the branches off my neighbor's live oak tree. But not the offending branch.
    Why me, Lord?
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  • Posted by $ gharkness 8 years, 1 month ago in reply to this comment.
    Yep, DrZarkov99, but for GAWDs sake don't complain about the loudness of the Jumbotron on Friday nights at football games, even if you built your house long before the stadium was even conceived. I have only been in OK two years but I was sorely disappointed in the lack of empathy for this issue (BTW I am not the complainant and can't myself even hear the racket.)
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  • Posted by $ gharkness 8 years, 1 month ago
    Is this neighbor American? The only reason I ask is that natives of some countries - not gonna name them - simply do not have or recognize personal boundaries like we do. It would never occur to them that what's yours is yours and not to be infringed upon.

    Good luck with this. It's a shame you have to even ask. Ouch, after reading further I see you are concerned about possible violence. Sorry to hear that, and good luck.
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  • Posted by DrZarkov99 8 years, 1 month ago
    Every time I hear of something like this, it reminds me why I retired to Oklahoma. People here are gracious, thoughtful, and will help someone in need in a second.
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  • Posted by $ 8 years, 1 month ago in reply to this comment.
    Honestly, I'm curious and little concerned about what I'll find tomorrow after he reads my letter. Considering how much effort was put into tearing up my sign and scattering it on the side of my house I cannot rely on his being civil, logical or level headed.
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  • Posted by $ Olduglycarl 8 years, 1 month ago in reply to this comment.
    Yep...you got a democrat problem in your neighborhood alright...and a full blown parasitical humanoid at that.

    Wish you all the luck in the world AJ, hope it can be resolved peacefully.
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  • Posted by $ 8 years, 1 month ago in reply to this comment.
    My front yard is desert lanscaping. Aside from 1 large bush (which prevents seeing that side of my house from the street) and several texas sage (very small, maybe 2 feet high) there is nothing on my property that can generate that amount of trash. My neighbors yard for quite some time looked like a jungle with its overgrown weeds. I was pleasantly surprised that they decided to clean it up, for a while anyway.

    I suspect from the many little pieces my home made "private property" sign was torn up that there the potential for violence, or at least a heated rant.

    As for the properly line the area where the walls meet coincides with the edge some railroad ties laid into the ground, a clear marking. Where he put this was entirely on my side, against my wall and partially against my house. I think its pretty obvious. (pic below, my yard is the one with the rocks and the yellow wall)

    https://1drv.ms/i/s!AoEhhif6eYPVhWRGn...
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  • Posted by $ Olduglycarl 8 years, 1 month ago
    They either think the property line is different that what you recogize or they think this is your trash from your side.
    The third option, as express by Dob is more likely the problem.
    Fortunately I haven't run into problems like this or any other problems with my neighbors.
    In a liberal state...that's EPIC!
    I live in a large wooded conservative neighborhood.
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  • Posted by $ 8 years, 1 month ago in reply to this comment.
    Not sure of these folks politics so I can't comment. Yesterday after moving their yard waste on their yard, I put out a sign "Private property - No dumping". Today the yard waste back on my yard and the sign is torn to shreds and scattered on my. I moved his crap over again. I put the above letter in his mailbox (no one home). Next step is to call in the city and have him sited for illegal dumping.
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  • Posted by Dobrien 8 years, 1 month ago
    Yes AJ,
    The mindless unconscious today abound.
    After all HRC got over 50 million votes , those people choose to ignore her criminal activity and her reckless use of the state dept to enrich her family. They are certainly not objective.
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