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On being born with privilege

Posted by davidmcnab 4 years, 9 months ago to Philosophy
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Earlier today, I saw a feminist posting on social media about the "privilege inherent in being white, straight and male". It had an undertone of expectation that anyone in that position should feel guilty and hold themselves back in favour of those denied that privilege.

Anyway, this was my reply:

To anyone with privilege of any kind be it artistic genius, or wealthy birth, or athletic capability, or political connections, or dominant gender/sexuality/ethnicity, I say this:

Do not under any circumstances allow yourself to indulge (or others to manipulating you into indulging) in that toxic infectious emotion called 'guilt', or feel you have to hold yourself back in any way, or for anybody.

Take everything great you have been given, and use it to its utmost to be all you can be. Through your productive accomplishment, you inspire others, and even lighten their load.

Audit all the helpful and unhelpful cards you have been dealt. Strategise your life to maximise the benefit of your helpful cards, and minimise the adverse impact of your unhelpful ones, and where possible, even convert the unhelpful ones into helpful ones.

And be mindful that the true measure of a person is not what cards they have been dealt, but how they play them.

I don't identify as Christian, but that passage on 'charity' in Corinthians offers much guidance, especially if you substitute the words 'open heart' and/or 'empathy' for the word 'charity' (which today has taken on a connotation of moral obligation to give to those less fortunate).


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    Posted by DrZarkov99 4 years, 9 months ago
    When my ancestors (Irish and French) first arrived in the late 1600s, they were asylum-seekers; the Irish from losing the Catholic side of the Battle of the Boyne in 1690, and the French as victims of prosecution of their Huguenot faith about the same time. Both groups were distinctly disadvantaged and barely tolerated by their English Anglican neighbors, pushed to the frontier to deal with hostile Amerindian tribes.

    Those ancestors scrapped for existence, toiled, bled, and died from disease in those early days. Each successive generation had a Calvinist bent for their duty to work hard, make the world better for their children, and help those who needed assistance. They were farmers, coal miners, wheelrights, blacksmiths, railroad workers, with only the most recent generation reaching college-educated upper middle class.

    When I hear the term "privileged" applied to people of my color, it takes real restraint not to slap the speaker. If over three hundred years of dedication to the principles of the nation's founding, sacrificing lives in every major conflict, and never relying on government handouts even in their poorest days is somehow privileged, then I invite these phony "sufferers" to walk a few thousand miles in the shoes of my founding American family.
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    • Posted by blackswan 4 years, 9 months ago
      The term "privileged" applied to people of ANY color betrays an ignorance of where privilege comes from. This country was built by the dregs of society in all of the old world. Our ancestors were sold as slaves, driven out of their countries after massacres and persecutions, and were generally labelled as bums, criminals, ne'er do wells, troublemakers, boat rockers, and general pains in the ass. This country wasn't built by an aristocracy, but by those pains in the ass, guys and gals like Vanderbilt, Rockefeller, Carnegie, Ford, Carver, Walker, Drew, McCoy, and a host of others, NONE of whom came from anything but humble beginnings. It was those pains in the ass who astonished the world with their creative spirit, and set the standard for virtually anything of importance today. The only thing to worry about is a global conspiracy to destroy this country, because many in the world can't accept that the bums they threw out are so far ahead of them that they're out of sight. That's probably the main reason that they refuse to accept the rights of man and the other founding documents, along with the virtues and behaviors, that established this country. It's probably in their interest to see this country destroyed, rather than accept the principles upon which this country was founded. America is too strong for them to be able to accomplish its destruction, but the termites inside (the so-called "progressives") are likely being supported by them, to do what they can't accomplish. Americans have allowed themselves to be manipulated by these termites, using envy as their primary tool, to take this country down. Whether you believe in God or not, it would be a good idea to read the 10 Commandments, just to see which ones have been violated to accomplish the leftist agenda. Just a thought.
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    Posted by jimjamesjames 4 years, 9 months ago
    "privilege: a right or immunity granted as a peculiar benefit, advantage, or favor."

    If a privilege is "granted," there's a presumption of a relationship between a grantor and a grantee. If my being white, straight (and tall) offends someone, I suggest they take it up with the grantor, not me.
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    • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
      now you get into 9th and 10th amendment.. remember them? Whose granting that status? Other than the natural parent(s). Where did they get the right to interfere?
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  • Posted by LibertyBelle 4 years, 9 months ago
    In a laissez-faire, free-enterprise country, it would
    not much matter if you were born with a lot of mon-
    ey or not; if you were lazy and/or incompetent, you would
    eventually lose it, and be down on the level with
    "non-priveleged" people again. It is not neces-
    sary for the government to take away people's
    property (nor even for a lot of people to voluntar-
    ily give it up), if we could just have freedom.
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    • Posted by $ jbrenner 4 years, 9 months ago
      As stated by Francisco d'Anconia: "Only the man who does not need it, is fit to inherit wealth – the man who would make his own fortune no matter where he started. If an heir is equal to his money, it serves him; if not, it destroys him. But you look on and you cry that money corrupted him. Did it? Or did he corrupt his money? Do not envy a worthless heir; his wealth is not yours and you would have done no better with it. Do not think that it should have been distributed among you, loading the world with fifty parasites instead of one would not bring back the dead virtue which was the fortune. Money is a living power that dies without its root. Money will not serve that mind that cannot match it. Is this the reason why you call it evil?"
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  • Posted by $ jlc 4 years, 9 months ago
    I would make a slight correction to your otherwise great advice, DavidMc. There are actually three classes of 'advantage' (two of which are in your list, the third I add for completeness since all of these are railed against): Inherent (athletic, genius, art), borrowed (political connections), and acquired (earned wealth and position). So, to your advice, I would add: Take care to distinguish between the privileges that are 'you' vs those that are 'not you'. While you do not have to apologize for any of the items in the list, relying too much on achievements of others leads to a false sense of self esteem and/or may set standards that are inappropriate for you.

    Jan
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    • Posted by johnpe1 4 years, 9 months ago
      Jan, as a practicing engineer, almost all of the work
      which I did was "not-you" replication of the achievement
      of others. . only the occasional "you" inventions made me
      a unique producer;;; otherwise, I was applying the
      work of others to my circumstances. . I wanted to be
      the next Edison, but only made it to journeyman.
      I was indeed frustrated that I wasn't TAE.2, but
      setting high standards for myself drove me for
      my first 50 self-sustaining years and continue to
      help me to this day. . the drive for excellence is
      a worthy goal if credit is given as due, don't you think? -- j
      .
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      • Posted by $ jlc 4 years, 9 months ago
        Your work, johnpe, is a combination of inherent (your innate genius) and acquired (your hard work) - both of which is in the 'you' category. What is in the 'not you' category is stuff like inherited wealth, power, prestige, fame. All of your work is 'you'.

        None of the 'not you' category needs to be apologized for, please note, but it is dangerous. Studies done on the 'children of famous people' show a very high incidence of alcoholism and drug use, for example. (I just tried to look up some stats but could not find any easily - have read many articles on this in the past, however.) I observe that this sort of 'leg up' to success is often a poison pill.

        Jan
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        • Posted by johnpe1 4 years, 9 months ago
          my good fortune was centered around good, solid and
          "comfortable" parenting -- training and health care --
          and opportunities to read, study and play on my own.
          I had my lawn service, and still have the schwinn
          ten-speed downstairs which I bought with some of
          the profits. . taught me capitalism, work ethic, the
          value of reputation. . the inheritance factor provided
          about half of this house. . it's a good-un. -- j
          .
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        • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
          Does that include lottery winners? Other than inherited it seems to fit. After all what does it take to walk to the local convenience station and spend two dollars. I'm sure the list should be much broader.
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          • Posted by $ jlc 4 years, 9 months ago
            Good question. I am not sure.

            The articles I read pointed the finger at the difficulty in the child of famous parents living up to the fame. Nothing they could do would make them 'better' than their parent(s). They always felt 'second class' or 'worthless by comparison'.

            So, perhaps the winning of a lottery is a different phenomenon, though I think that you are probably accurate to point out that 'this rarely ends well'.

            Jan
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            • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
              Most get caught in one of two traps the first is relatives and friends. The second is investing..

              The pertinent question is...if you now have xyz million dollars why are you investing?

              The key word for you is security and safety of your funds

              Investing is ALWAYS a risk of one degree or another

              Start off with where do you put it?

              A bank and when it fails you get $250,000 back?

              Offshore - nothing illegal with all taxes paid.

              In country? The safest place at present are T bIlls even at zero percent. the most you will lose is buying power. So let's look at ten million after taxes. In a bank without a lot of extra steps each good for only 250,000, you would still have 6,500,000 in buying power if the crash was equal to 2008.

              in a bank you would get 250,000 minus 35 percent or 175,000

              Why? Uncle Sammy can't afford to renege on T Bills. He counts on them too much just to survive and besides...it's just a matter of issuing checks with magnetic notations

              thus we arrive at the full faith and cred it of the US Economy.

              L
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              • Posted by $ jlc 4 years, 9 months ago
                There are other answers:

                #1. Buy stuff. Land. Houses. Rental properties. If you buy $6M worth of 'stuff that appreciates' or 'stuff that will give you an income over the next years' then you have something that can actually earn money.

                #2. Spend your money on something you regard as worthwhile: De-extincting mammoths or the Thylacine; commercialization of space; longevity research.

                You can do both, of course: You need about $3M to keep you in independent luxury (invested in real estate); then put the rest into something intersting.

                Jan
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                • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
                  Correct me if I'm wrong but didn't we just go through a housing bubble crash just a few ears ago AND didn't we just hear that Fannie Mae is going to do the exact same thing all over again. I would hardly invest money in purchasing the right to pay rent as worth while especially in the USA

                  Now a couple of new boats....in which to live and which provide an escape mechanism is much more my style

                  But after 'giving back half then 39% or whatever I'm more in favor of a Bobby and Sue investment.

                  Go on...take the money and run....

                  But other than t bills oddly enough no way I'd invest in an economy heading for another big crash.
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                  • Posted by $ jlc 4 years, 9 months ago
                    People need places to live. My parents said that, during the Depression, the only folks who had income were people who could rent out apartments or rooms. If you have a ton of money, you do not have to take Fannie may into the process - just buy a block of nice apartments outright.

                    Since you were discussing Tbills (above)...I don't think apartment buildings is beyond the range of feasibility.

                    Jan
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                    • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
                      True...I just have a major distrust of taking too many hits on the buying power and too many hits as a property ha ha owner. The idea of paying for the right to pay taxes and assume all liabilities leaves me cold as does the poor business climate and even poorer government climate.

                      At my age I'm not into property management considering the length of time and cost to drive out the deadbeats. A group favored by Judges...

                      It's not my cup of tea nor do I see any reasonable stoppage on trends nor any real hope of a recovery - just more of the same.

                      I'd rather live in a warm (for my old bones) and safe (as compared to the USA) country and enjoy my dotage.
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                      • Posted by $ jlc 4 years, 9 months ago
                        Ha, some 'dotage'!

                        But this began with your question of 'what about lottery winners'. I would not want to put the money in a bank, but I don't want to keep it in a mattress either. I am not nautically accomplished, so boats and ships are not where I would go - but land is.

                        I would hire a property management company.

                        Jan
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                        • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
                          Excellent now we have an alternative to banks and mattresses and t - bills all a form of securing the money with the least amount of risk....

                          I dote on my dotage....and just acquired a new bit of stuff (dinghy) for the boat... :-)
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                          • Posted by $ jlc 4 years, 9 months ago
                            It was a remark here in the Gulch that produced the AHA moment for me: Someone pointed out that if you exchanged $100 for a warm wool coat, your overall worth had not changed (and now you were warmer).

                            So if you used a million or so dollars to buy a big ranch and add secure gates, solar power, and a well, you have purchased a degree of security against some forms of mischance. You might also be able to sell said ranch for more than its cost + improvements, thus earning money by making yourself more secure. (Repeat.)

                            Jan
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  • Posted by Riftsrunner 4 years, 9 months ago
    The term 'privileged' has nothing to do with any actual advantage a person may or may not have. It is Social Justice Warrior speak for "Shut the F*** Up. Because you are not {insert supposed underprivileged class (examples: a woman, black, gay, transexual)} your opinion is irrelevant to me and cannot add to the conversation on how we can solve the persecution of {said class} ". I usually take them saying that I need to 'check my privilege' that they are so unsure of their points of views that they need to shut me up before I can destroy the foundation of those beliefs as if they were build of sand by the ocean and the tide is coming in.
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    • Posted by MaxCasey 4 years, 9 months ago
      Telling someone to "Check your privilege" is technically a logical fallacy. It seeks to invalidate the persons comment, argument, belief, by suggesting that it is invalidated not on merit, but because of another factor. I suppose it could be Tu Quoque.
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  • Posted by wiggys 4 years, 9 months ago
    All I can say it is has been a privilege to be born in the USA. I and probably several million others whose families came to this country over 100 years ago who have been successful because they like me had the opportunity which in my case I wouldn't have had if I was born in Russia are as grateful as I am. That is the privilege that this woman does not understand.
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    • Posted by freedomforall 4 years, 9 months ago
      SO right, wiggys.
      I recognize the amazing advantages of being born in America in the 20th century. That alone is no guarantee of happiness, but it makes the pursuit of happiness a completely different challenge when compared (for example) to an individual in India, Russia, China, or the entire continents of Africa and South America.
      I complain frequently and loudly about the violations of the US Constitution and encroachments of the federal government and the powerful people who manipulate its affronts on individual liberty. I recognize that these liberties are rare, and that they are the fountainhead from which the advantages of being born in America flow.
      We must preserve those liberties at all costs and against all enemies regardless of the danger and in spite of any inconvenience or slander.
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  • Posted by $ Thoritsu 4 years, 9 months ago
    Interesting that athletic capability and beauty don't fall into the media cross hairs too often. However, if you go to college without minimal scholarship, work hard, communicate well and end up in a well-paying job, you are scum, compared with people earning 10x more, playing games that still end up in bar fights, shootings, rape and set up dog fighting. Pathetic.

    The light of another's candle diminishes your none.
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  • Posted by jetmec 4 years, 9 months ago
    In England the most decimated against section of the community is the single white Christian straight male
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    • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
      decimated against....translated for those not conversant with the Queen's English.

      decimate - to kill one tenth. Do it ten times it reduces the group in question 100 - 90 - 81 - 72 - 66 - 57 - 51 - 45 - 40 and one more 36.
      assuming no replacements.

      On the other hand if you are into PC it could mean almost anything..

      Good post jetmec.
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      • Posted by jetmec 4 years, 9 months ago
        Sorry! fat fingers! It should read discriminated
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        • Posted by 4 years, 9 months ago
          Welcome to the era of electronic Freudian slips. Small-screen keyboards which give rise to typing errors, but errors which often have their own deeper accuracy.

          The single white straight Christian male is certainly being 'decimated' at the moment. :/
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          • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
            Then no problem for me. By the time it's my turn to be one in ten executed I'll be dust in the wind anyway...or sprinkled on the water....whatever the death benefit from the government comes to..I have set nothing aside to pay their bills and it's just another benefit they will not doubt try to renege on ....

            not my worry at that point.
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  • Posted by ChuckyBob 4 years, 9 months ago
    I am a Swiss-English-Scottish-Irish-Australian-Danish-Welsh-Cherokee-Spanish-(with possibly a little Russian and Norwegian thrown in for good measure)-American who suffers from ADD and a little lesdixia. As such, I claim Swiss-English-Scottish-Irish-Australian-Danish-Welsh-Cherokee-Spanish-(with possibly a little Russian and Norwegian thrown in for good measure)-American who suffers from ADD and a little lesdixia privilege! I also am a member of a religious group that has been specifically targeted by the Federal Government. (All of which is really not worth a hill of beans)

    The world of today is quite different from the world of the 1960s. Just about anyone who will comport themselves with proper decorum, using properly the rich lingual heritage afforded us in the USA, and willing to put forth a modicum of effort can succeed quite well, notwithstanding race, or ethnicity.

    However, If you walk in looking like a gang-banger, and speaking like a foul-mouthed longshoreman, and acting like a slovenly sloth, don't expect to be awarded the privilege of those who put forth the effort to succeed.

    You are only a victim if you allow yourself to be a victim. If race is the determining factor, how did Ben Carson get to where he is today?
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    • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
      Well I was dumb enought to believe the government when it came to earned benefits of retirement. They reneged on the housing loan certificate, they reneged on COLA, they reneged on GI Bill. they reneged on medical for life. I have to say they didn't renege on space available on air force planes but then I haven't tried to use that benefit for about ten years.

      Nothing more renegable than than a veteran.
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  • Posted by MaxCasey 4 years, 9 months ago
    I've often wondered, as a white man, when I might get my explanation of benefits as I work to pay off student loan debt incurred because my white father made too much money for me to qualify for any grant programs, and decided he was not going to pay for his kids college. To hear the lib-tards say it, one would think that we "honkeys" would get front row parking, special shopping discounts, free towing when our car breaks down etc. I personally haven't been handed anything in my life and am busting my ass everyday to work for a "minority" business owner while struggling to get my Information Security Firm off the ground and into the black. There aren't any special business programs for being white, but a majority of the clients I service at my day job have special budgets set aside to hire minority businesses, regardless of how they stack up against a color-blind set of competitors.

    So when I hear about "white-privilege" I laugh a bit to myself and remind myself that the greatest danger faced by Americans is not Al-CIA-Duh, or ISIS, or ISIL, or Ali Babba and his 40 Thieves. No, our greatest threat, that which will wind up destroying our country and the human race in its entirety is, STUPIDITY.

    Hunker Down "Gulch". You are surrounded by it.
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    • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
      As I recall there was no such thing as student loans when I needed them ...and when I finished 24 years in the military and tried to use my Vietnam GI BIll was told tough shit we cancelled that..

      THAT goes in the Democrats column of who to blame squarely. They hate veterans...and I despise them....

      I paid blood and they sat on their fat asses. pun intended.
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  • Posted by $ blarman 4 years, 9 months ago
    Here are a few of the privileges I'm glad I have:

    1. The privilege of life. I live.
    2. The privilege of thought. Life is nothing without thought.
    3. The privilege to exercise thought or work. Life without the freedom to express my thought is not a privilege.
    4. The privilege to see my work's value traded to others without government interference.
    5. The privilege to share my ideas with others.

    Here are a few of the privileges I don't have:

    1. The privilege of depriving others of their wealth by coercion.
    2. The privilege of telling others they must believe what I do.
    3. The privilege of restricting what others can say or believe.
    4. The privilege of restricting or controlling how another person can offer the value of their work to another.
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    • Posted by 4 years, 9 months ago
      The word 'privilege' is worrying, generally speaking. As distinct from 'rights' (which are inherent to a person, group or situation and can neither be granted nor revoked), privilege by definition can be easily snatched away. This makes concepts like 'white hetero male privilege' seem even more ludicrous.
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  • Posted by johnpe1 4 years, 9 months ago
    people fail to recognize that the improvements in this
    world are made by those who are making the absolute MOST
    of all they have at their disposal -- talent, resources, luck --
    as you say, David. . it is not done by those who make the LEAST
    of their talent, resources and luck! . your life is what
    you make of it, and only those who make the most
    of it have profits with which to help others whom they
    love to share their walk through life with -- family,
    friends, compatriots, veterans, bums with clean-
    collared shirts on trains. . the more you profit, the
    more you can love. . Go Make A Profit, Y'All. -- j
    .
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    • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
      And I just put what it was in the wrong space so now I shall rewrite...

      Altruism is not the proper word nor wrong if it is arrived at objectively and by our own free will. i'm thinking of rands definition of greed...that which we want the most will only come if we give the most and give with the expectation of both pleasing the recipient but of receiving same from the recipient..

      It is not 'giving back' that most odious of phrases. it is an expression of the joy of having free will.and expecting even more besides a feel good red bull jolt that soon dies and requires two more...

      That is how I apologize as for the proper spot that is no longer among the living i sentenced it to death by ignoring.
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  • Posted by ssadesign 4 years, 9 months ago
    The major issue today is race and privilege and White and privilege. Non-whites feel that they are at a serious disadvantage in America. They feel they are now owed something they will put them at an advantage. What? That is the question.
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    • Posted by MaxCasey 4 years, 9 months ago
      They need to quit using their "feelings" as tools of cognition and start using logic then. Just because you "feel" something doesn't make it so. If we could discern facts of reality by "feeling" something then someone would have figured out how to "feel" the lottery numbers with pinpoint accuracy each week.
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      • Posted by 4 years, 9 months ago
        I think both matter. Serious discrepancy between emotion an intellect is a red flag signifying serious internal contradiction with potentially deadly ramifications. Either the intellect is resting on one or more false or mutually contradictory axioms, or the emotions are based on premises detrimental to full individual self-actualisation, or both.
        Emotions, as Ayn Rand says, are fast approximators. In the anatomy of the human heart, there is a matrix of interconnected nerve cells, constituting a brain in and of itself. Emotions such as anxiety can deliver rapid and accurate warnings of internal contradiction.
        That said, however, emotions can be just as vulnerable as intellect regarding their ability to produce errors, as a result of false premises.

        Example: Feeling fear when looking to start your own business, versus feeling happiness taking a secure but moderately paid job in a large company. This emotion can be based on family conditioning around work and money. Others would feel emotions of joy and freedom starting their own business, versus feeling suffocated and depressed taking the secure job.
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        • Posted by MaxCasey 4 years, 9 months ago
          Emotions are tools of measure. They tell you how you are judging something, be it good, or bad on a scale. They don't however tell you whether your value judgement is rational. This is my point concerning how people who lament feeling like whites are "privileged". As for a serious internal contradiction, not necessarily. You may feel negative about something, but logically not be entitled to act negatively as a result. For example, you find your wife in bed with another dude. You might feel any number of negative emotions directing you to can of whoopass, however, logically, you have no right to take forceful retribution or vengeance. I'm not sure that a fully self-actualized individual would be without negative emotions at the hands of a personal betrayal of trust, nor am I sure he/she should be.
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  • Posted by $ Olduglycarl 4 years, 9 months ago
    You said it all here: "be mindful that the true measure of a person is not what cards they have been dealt, but how they play them."

    No matter the cards dealt be Jokers or Aces. But history shows that those dealt jokers have created more than those dealt aces.

    Perhaps those dealt jokers are privileged by their own determination, perseverance and ultimate successes.
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  • Posted by $ MichaelAarethun 4 years, 9 months ago
    Well well well this the same thing as saying only the rich should pay taxes and defining it as $100K or more? Another leftist mantra...stuff it! Are their differences YES but onloy because the government and the left support racism, sexism and bigotry.

    Big time.
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  • Posted by Herb7734 4 years, 9 months ago
    Those of you who may be familiar with The Desiderata by Max Ehrmann could well place Mr. McNab's words as an addendum. I can add nothing to his excellent and inspiring advice except to say well done.
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  • Posted by $ WilliamShipley 4 years, 9 months ago
    I admit that there is an advantage to being white, straight and male. A black friend's fear of being pulled over for "driving while black" is not irrational. I've heard from my wife that a man sitting alone in a restaurant is likelier to get his coffee refilled than a woman. And there are many more examples of greater and lesser discrimination.

    Do I feel guilty? Hell no. To the degree that some people are not being treated with the same respect and courtesy as a "white male", they deserve better treatment. Pulling me over unnecessarily for 'equality' or not giving me a second cup of coffee does nothing for them.

    All people deserve to be treated with respect and courtesy.
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    • Posted by MaxCasey 4 years, 9 months ago
      "Driving while black" "fear" is the result of the fact that of a demographic, that amounts to about 13% of the population, commits about 47% of the murders in this country, and as a result those tasked with law enforcement will approach a situation with these statistics in mind. You don't escape it, you can't escape it. Asking an officer to disregard a statistical probability is asking them to set themselves up for trouble. Statistically speaking, pulling over or engaging with African Americans is more dangerous than other folks. (I didn't even get into general crime stats when I pulled those numbers for 2014 from the FBI, btw). Now, at this point the lib-tarded will try to tell me that the criminal is a product of his environment and it's not his fault, but societies fault because of white-privilege. I will then remind the lib-tard that "white-privilege" doesn't make between 36-40% of all abortions in this country come from black women, nor does it cause roughly 67% of children under the age of 18 in the black community to be raised in single parent homes. At this point I will suggest that perhaps it is not a societal failing, but a cultural one that is perpetuating failure.

      Also consider the recent case of the Oscar nominees. It's a well accepted fact that TV, Movies and media in general is aimed at target demographics most likely to buy the product. Are you more than likely to attract a profit with a film or TV show targeted to 87% of the country or 13% of the country? Of course it's not that simple to cut, but you get my point. As one who works in Advertising, I see this delineation every single day. Companies are focused on targeting people who have cash to spend and they are not interested in researching ways to screw over minorities. They do however spend a lot of money trying to figure out how to get minorities to buy their products but even then the spend is proportional to the economic power of the market segment.

      So while some will observe a "privilege" being exercised, more often than not (institutionally speaking), they are just ignorant of larger currents at play.
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  • Posted by CircuitGuy 4 years, 9 months ago
    I try to think of the advantages I had coming from a privledged background when I start to fret about something unfair that didn't go my way. It puts it in perspective. It helps me focus on actions I can take rather than the scorecard of when fate worked for me or against me.
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    • Posted by $ Thoritsu 4 years, 9 months ago
      Great message for the underprivileged, overweight, people with cell phones, flat screen TVs and boredom eleiminated.
      Those rich people you hate so much macroscopically kept you from living in squalor, malaria, famine and struggle.
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