Update on changing one's actions
Posted by MikeJoyous 10 years, 2 months ago to Education
Imagine that you want to do something differently. You find it very hard, maybe impossible. What can you do in that situation?
Well, my upcoming workshop is going to be about that very issue. The first step is to ask yourself what kind of feelings may be behind your difficulty. Imagine that what comes up is "helplessness" associated with feeling like a helpless child. What next? Ask your intuition where that helplessness may be contained within your body and, on a scale of 1 to 10, which number (with 10 being the highest) represents your experience of resistance associated with the helplessness. Then you tap at that spot, and the next spot suggested by your intuition, and you ask your intuition for more spots (first) and to be alert for a time when the number representing your resistance of the moment has gone down. For example, if your initial resistance associated with the helplessness is tied to the number 6, your intuition just points out different spots to tap or to press until eventually the number that comes up when you ask yourself that question is less than a 6, perhaps a 4. Keep on with this cycle (tap or press, ask for the new number) until eventually the number that comes up is a zero. I will help folks to do this in my upcoming workshop. To get one free look at this go to www.emofree.com. You can take a look at a free in-depth definition of how this works. My own way of doing this work is far simpler than Mr. Craig's, but I like the fact that many people have used his work to help others and make money doing so:) Once you come to a zero, use Patricia Carrington's "releasing" work to let go of the remaining "hangover" (my term) of emotionality. This also is covered in my upcoming workshop. If you still find it very hard to act, ask yourself if another feeling could be forming resistance to the action. Do the whole cycle again--as many times as new feelings pop up. I tend to feel like "Enough" after I go through this process 3-5 times. It takes as much as 5 minutes. Now ask yourself, on a scale of 1-10, how much resistance is left within you. If the answer is 5 or above, you have more work to do. If the answer is 4 or less, then you have to just *let* the impetus to act take hold of you. My experience is that, at this point, action takes place without supreme effort, almost automatically. I haven't yet tested this process on many different issues of mine, but I'm writing about it here to inspire those of you who have some psychological background to experiment with the process I laid out. Who knows? Maybe you may not even need my workshop!:)
Well, my upcoming workshop is going to be about that very issue. The first step is to ask yourself what kind of feelings may be behind your difficulty. Imagine that what comes up is "helplessness" associated with feeling like a helpless child. What next? Ask your intuition where that helplessness may be contained within your body and, on a scale of 1 to 10, which number (with 10 being the highest) represents your experience of resistance associated with the helplessness. Then you tap at that spot, and the next spot suggested by your intuition, and you ask your intuition for more spots (first) and to be alert for a time when the number representing your resistance of the moment has gone down. For example, if your initial resistance associated with the helplessness is tied to the number 6, your intuition just points out different spots to tap or to press until eventually the number that comes up when you ask yourself that question is less than a 6, perhaps a 4. Keep on with this cycle (tap or press, ask for the new number) until eventually the number that comes up is a zero. I will help folks to do this in my upcoming workshop. To get one free look at this go to www.emofree.com. You can take a look at a free in-depth definition of how this works. My own way of doing this work is far simpler than Mr. Craig's, but I like the fact that many people have used his work to help others and make money doing so:) Once you come to a zero, use Patricia Carrington's "releasing" work to let go of the remaining "hangover" (my term) of emotionality. This also is covered in my upcoming workshop. If you still find it very hard to act, ask yourself if another feeling could be forming resistance to the action. Do the whole cycle again--as many times as new feelings pop up. I tend to feel like "Enough" after I go through this process 3-5 times. It takes as much as 5 minutes. Now ask yourself, on a scale of 1-10, how much resistance is left within you. If the answer is 5 or above, you have more work to do. If the answer is 4 or less, then you have to just *let* the impetus to act take hold of you. My experience is that, at this point, action takes place without supreme effort, almost automatically. I haven't yet tested this process on many different issues of mine, but I'm writing about it here to inspire those of you who have some psychological background to experiment with the process I laid out. Who knows? Maybe you may not even need my workshop!:)
Of couse I have "feelings" but "helplessness" isn't one of them.
Not now. Not ever.
Perhaps you should peddle your "process" elsewhere,
Yes, I am watching Atlas Shrugged II at this very moment and have drawn inspiration for my answer from it!
As a fan of Neil Diamond especially 'Red red wine', I recommend to whoever is down in the dumps-
"But, fill me with the old familiar Juice,
Methinks I might recover by-and-bye!"
"And much as Wine has play'd the Infidel
And robb'd me of my Robe of Honour---well,
I often wonder what the Vintners buy
One half so precious as the Goods they sell."
Freud's ideas have been extensively debunked. They are untestable. non-falsifiable and have no explanatory power.
It is likely that he never made an honest statement in his professional life. He was clever enough to avoid making predictions, he just gave contrived explanations and billed. His work was particularly devastating to women suffering sexual abuse when he would claim the woman was a victim only of her own fantasies and 'sub-conscious' wishes.
Sigmund Freud was a charlatan and fraud.
There is a vast debunking literature:
-Frederick Crews. essays in the New York Review of Books about 1995
-http://www.csulb.edu/~kmacd/paper-CrewsFreud.html
See -Alan Sokal. "Transgressing the Boundaries: Towards a Transformative Hermeneutics of Quantum Gravity", for a debunking of deconstructionism if the title does not give it away.
Regarding helplessness, the last decades have moved from discipline to therapy as consultants are better at marketing which indulges and sympathizes rather than getting the victim (or attention seeker) to straighten themselves out.
you may like the following that I found on the net, your tradition perhaps, from Rabbi Katz of Westbury NY:
"A man came to minyan this morning
With two youngsters;
He was in his forties;
They were in their early teens.
To myself I thought it was perhaps
The week before the boy's Bar Mitzvah;
Or maybe it was the father's turn to help make a minyan
And he had dragged along his son and daughter.
But towards the end of the service,
All three rose to recite the Kaddish
And the Rabbi called them over and chanted the El Malae -
The man, for his wife, the children, of 13 and 14
For their Mother.
Once again, coming to minyan
Has taught me a lesson:
Do not feel so sorry for yourself;
There are others who've got it worse."
I don't agree about Freud having no value.He discovered a new world in the subconscious.
About your Jewish thought: why was it worse for them to go to the minyan? What relevance is that to learning about how to overcome past feelings that hold one down?
Point 2- Read the story again, the message is to anyone who thinks they are hard done by, the father and two children are worse off than you so stop grumbling. Past feelings hold no one down, the wallowing in the present of grudges do the holding down.
If you believe that feelings hold no one down, then do you also believe that the tons of books about everything from psychology to self-help are all BS?
Have you ever considered attending a workshop on how to write an inelligible (readable) post?
Frankly, I don't see why anyone who lives by the principles of Objectivism would teel helpless or want to participate in a workshop to deal with that emotion.
Tomorrow I'll look at my post again. If anyone else has a similar comment, I'll rewrite it from that perspective.
For that matter, if *you* really want me to do so, I'll gladly rewrite the post to make it more readable.
Concerning feeling helpless, I think it's important to distinguish between a person's conscious philosophical convictions as opposed to what he has integrated on the deepest emotional and somatic levels. I am an Objectivist, but I have felt helpless way too often as I grew up, resulting in much depression. But let's get even more personal. I at one time believed in God, a Jewish God, with all my heart. Eventually, when a friend introduced me to Rand's philosophy, and I actually had the privilege of hearing Ms. Rand speak at an NBI lecture, I realized that, since I was committed to reason at bottom, I had to be an atheist. But knowing that did not somehow erase the yearning inside for there to be a wise beneficent God who would help me when I felt miserable. A person's conscious convictions form only *one* part of who he is. One needs to look deeper than a person's conscious philosophy to know who that person is.
I insisted that my subscribers on my list self-esteem-self-help always follow that method of writing. A shame that I forgot:(
Tomorrow I'll look at my post again. If anyone else has a similar comment, I'll rewrite it from that perspective.
For that matter, if *you* really want me to do so, I'll gladly rewrite the post to make it more readable.
Concerning feeling helpless, I think it's important to distinguish between a person's conscious philosophical convictions as opposed to what he has integrated on the deepest emotional and somatic levels.
I am an Objectivist, but I have felt helpless way too often as I grew up, resulting in much depression.
But let's get even more personal. I at one time believed in God, a Jewish God, with all my heart.
Eventually, when a friend introduced me to Rand's philosophy, and I actually had the privilege of hearing Ms. Rand speak at an NBI lecture, I realized that, since I was committed to reason at bottom, I had to be an atheist. But knowing that did not somehow erase the yearning inside for there to be a wise beneficent God who would help me when I felt miserable. A person's conscious convictions form only *one* part of who he is.
One needs to look deeper than a person's conscious philosophy to know who that person is.
Thanks, by the way, for making this clear to me, when you created many small paragraphs out of my last post:)
You're Neil Diamond!
I love "I AM I SAID!
I understand if you don't know who Neil Diamond is!
Please use google and and se if you can hear some of his songs.
Especially:
I AM I SAID
PLAY ME
HOLLY HOLLY
PS: Neil was a Jewish cantor whe he was young...
Or at least he played on in the movie "The Jazz Singer."
Until then I'll be what I am...
A solitarry man...
With no feelings of helplessness.
But until I can find her....
I'll be what I am;
A solitary man....
Am I cured?
Men of the mind trading value for value don't suffer from most of the 'syndromes' popularized by those with 'easy' answers for problems they can't even imagine having.
A=A and KYFHO
I'm an Objectivist also. So what? Being an Objectivist does not guarantee that a person won't have psychological problems. You know, Ayn Rand had her share of psychological problems, when you think of her "excommunicating" one friend after another for supposed betrayals.
"Simple" is not the same as "simplistic." Do you really really understand what I talked about in my last post? If it was "unreadable," doesn't that mean you did not understand it since you could not read it?
You seem to equate "Objectivist" with "superman" in the sense of not having psychological problems. Or am I mistaken about this?? If I am mistaken, please tell me where I am wrong.
Helplessness, fear, anger, biased or prejudiced because of emotionality - those are all emotions or emotional responses engendered in one's mind. If acted upon or 'treated' as you offer, you have bypassed one of the prime tenets of objectivism - that being to compare those emotions to the objectively real environment and your own inter-actons with it in a rational analysis.
Unreadable? Don't know where you got that.
AR having psychological problems - I think you're paraphrasing from one of her many detractors.
Objectivist equates to superman, not having psychological problems - nonsense. Objectivist reject letting emotions rule their lives, the decisions, their actions, and their happiness. Altruism is an emotion and arguably one of the most evil life motivators.
If you're mistaken, I'm not here to teach you or anyone else. Do your own work.
KYFHO
Do I understand you correctly?