That's a rather over simplistic view of the issue. In reality, the laws surrounding murder are deeply multifaceted and complex, and have several caveats and stipulations to deal with different circumstances and situations.
Who was talking about laws? I was talking about the natural right to defend your life. Black is black and white is white... call it simplistic if you want to. (Overly complicated and illogical approaches are dangerous.)
No, what's dangerous is always thinking in terms of black and white, as doing so almost always creates an overly simplistic and impractical view of the world, leaving one incapable of dealing with complex, multifaceted issues.
but the remedy should still be the same. It makes no difference if I kill you because you are gay or a woman. A black man killing a white man is the same as a black man killing a black man. A wife killing a husband is the same as a mother killing her newborn. We all identify to a some group(s)-ultimately anyone murdered unless in self-defense-falls into the group weaker, unlucky, prey, etc.
" A wife killing a husband is the same as a mother killing her newborn."
Perhaps under the strict definition of law, but there are always cases of an elderly spouse ending the suffering of their mate. Many times they are fulfilling a request....
Apparently they're trying to justify their hate by claiming that it is a form of harassment for a transgender girl to use the same restrooms as cisgender girls, which of course is ridiculous. -_-
Hello Mephesdus, I’m not surprised the story was slanted in various media outlets. The original posting we saw, was after all, the Daily Mail. Still, the fact remains that a previously self identified male has decided to change publicly the gender he/she now wishes to live by. This means the female students who have known this person as a boy now see him/her as an invasion of their privacy. What constitutes harassment to some may be of no consequence to others. The mere presence of a male sportscaster in a women’s locker room and vice versa could be seen as harassment. Special accommodations should be made to provide comfort to all including the transgender student. What is not clear is what gender this person is biologically, what gravity this factor should play if any, and whether one can change their status without a physical/medical change and force themselves into the girl’s public restroom. What doesn't make sense is to allow this person to use whichever facility fits their changeable frame of mind. This seems a bit much to expect children to handle well.
The issue really isn't about the particulars of this incident. It is a larger question about protecting the privacy rights of all equally. I think this is just a case of propriety. Just because someone is concerned about the rights of all does not make one “Transphobic” any more than questioning the probity of a boy knowingly using the girl’s facilities or a girl using the boy’s facilities. If this were of no reasonable concern then there would be no need to identify the facilities by gender. Like I have suggested previously, the answer for the future may be unisex facilities. For .3% of the population you would think that simply letting the rare transgender student use the faculty facilities where adults are the only ones exposed to this private matter would be a better temporary solution. I question the wisdom of the student, their parents and the school administration in making this (what I believe should be a private matter), a public issue by virtue of the solution they chose. It should have been handled more prudently, for the dignity of all concerned. I find it most distressing in that it would seem a most uncomfortable position for the transgender student to now endure such public attention…
What? No, it was a lie made up by two transphobic moms who didn't want a transgender student using the same restrooms as their daughters. You're not a conspiracy theorist, are you?
it is a tactic the left uses all the time. conspiracy theorist not needed-just a dot connector. We addressed the real issue on the other post. we had some who had strong feelings about transgenders, but most got to the heart of the thing, had it been true. If you keep dinging, the conversation may dry up and I think you want this conversation.
Yeah, Map, I have to agree with this. We are listening. We were having a constructive conversation with you about this topic then you smack us with this article that isn’t very kind to conservatives. Paints all of us as violent and whats the word? Transphobic?
The article didn't seem to me like it was being unkind to conservatives. It just pointed out the fact that the original fake story was largely propagated by right-wing news outlets. That's a statement of fact, not a judgement.
I've never seen the political left engage in such tactics. And trying to make connections where none exist is one of the primary characteristics of a conspiracy theorist. Also, the point here is that the original story wasn't true -- it was a lie concocted by anti-LGBT hate mongers.
Look, the original story was published in the Daily Mail online. That news outlet is no better then the National Enquirer. Is it owned by Koch? I think so, not sure. So what! Look how much yardage the stupid story got. It’s yellow journalism. I think you want to affect change. Then get positive! I just took a look around on the FOX website and couldn’t find that story. Most of the stories about gender have the comment section closed. Could their comment section have been closed because of a few ugly comments? Possibly. This is the internet. There’s loons everywhere. Here, I thought this was an informative video about gender hosted by FOX. http://video.foxnews.com/v/2513620862001... I sent money last year to a gay Republican group based here in Maryland, so stop buying the BS that the right-wing are all a bunch of anti-LGBT hate mongers. It’s a big tent and a Grand Ole Party.
She's an MTF transsexual, meaning she was born male but identifies and presents as female, so yes. However, the story doesn't say whether she's post-op or pre-op, so it's difficult to say for sure what she has between her legs. However, given her age, my guess is that's she's probably pre-op, since most transgender individuals don't get the actual surgery until age 18, even if they start living full time as their target gender much earlier than that.
Also, keep in mind here that this particular case involved the use of restrooms, not locker rooms, so there would have been no possibility of cisgender girls seeing the transgender girl's genitals unless they peeked into the stalls.
Did you answer the question in the other thread about what is a cigender was? I assume it means I’m born with one part I can identify with? Soooo confusing. But seriously, when you are a young idealistic female, (haven’t been one of those in years.) the only weenie you want to see is the one you have been fantasizing about secretly. A guilty pleasure. Seeing one just because you happen to run into some chick in the locker room that has one, just blows the whole fantasy out of the water. It is a bit violating. You just don’t see them everyday. The proper way to see one is in the dark with your boyfriend, I think. Oh, I can’t believe just wrote that. Past my bedtime. Laters ~
Cisgender is the opposite of transgender in the same way that heterosexual is the opposite of homosexual.
Okay, it's slightly more complicated than that, but I find that that's typically the easiest definition for people who are new to the subject material to wrap their head around. ;)
Don't mean anything by it, just asking a question. Could 'cisgender' be the equivalent of 'born gender'? If so, why not say that? Might help clear some of the confusion.
Yes, it's essentially the same thing, but I prefer to use "cisgender" anyway because it's the term most predominantly used by the LGBT community, queer theorists, and medical professionals who specialize in dealing with transgender patients, and I would like to see it catch on with the general public as well. I understand that it's usage is not yet common enough for the average person to know what it means, but I don't mind explaining the definition if doing so helps expand the word's usage. ;)
The definition sprang from the internet in conversations going on in the LGBT community, right?. Perhaps when the DSM gets around to evaluating the appropriateness of listing trans-sex as a disorder then perhaps through the psychiatric field the terms will become mainstream. Although, when evaluating homosexuality the psychiatric community didn’t stop with removing being gay from the list of mental disorders: they added homophobia, which I think created an even bigger problem. Biological urges are strong. It’s normal to feel icky when approached sexually by the wrong sex. Although, gay men don’t go around bashing women’s heads in, so obviously we need to bring some civility to the situation. But I still think the ‘ick’ factor is a normal reaction and homophobia is more of a cultural restraint rather than a real disorder. If people aren’t free to say that certain attention makes them uncomfortable, then you have to deal with the suppression of what are otherwise normal biological responses.
Well technically, the newest version of the DSM already does away with listing transsexualism as a disorder. Now it's just called "Gender Dysphoria" instead: http://www.advocate.com/politics/transge...
And homophobia is not and has never been listed in the DSM, and I don't know why you would think it was. In the future you ought to double check your sources on that kind of thing.
By the way, there's a documentary called "The Laramie Project" which talks about the murder of Matthew Shepard, a young 21 year-old gay man who was killed simply because a couple of guys thought he was hitting on them (though there's no evidence to prove he actually was). If you want a deeper perspective into the issue, then I'd highly recommend watching it. You can do so here:
Being uncomfortable with people of your same sex hitting on you is understandable, but at the same time you have understand the other side of the issue, which is that gay people often live in constant fear that they'll be beaten or murdered if they make even the tiniest romantic advances towards anyone they find attractive. How would you feel if you had to live with that sort of constant threat hanging over your head your all the time?
maph, someone has just written a book that debunks the Shepard killing motive. It suggests that at least one of the killers was also gay and that the motivation was drug money and that both killers were high at the time they killed him. http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oc... this is a recent story, but I read about the book some weeks ago.
We are arguing the same thing. By suggesting we need civility, I was suggesting we need more awareness and consideration to what gays are experiencing. I prefer to go to the source. It's has been a few years but I could have sworn the DSM lV did list homophobia. Good. If it has been changed again, or I mistaken and it was never in there in the first place..
Once upon a time, when I was in my mid 20s or so, I was in a bar with my mid-30 year old (married) brother and a couple of women we had met at a motel, one in her 50s or 60s, one in her 20s. The younger one had an eye for my brother, and I had an eye for her.
In the bar I was sitting across from her. She was flirting with my brother who was pretty much ignoring her (his wife was due to deliver his 3rd kid any day).
I had finally given up getting her attention, and was just sitting there sucking on my beer, when she stood up, unzipped her fly and tucked her shirt in, then rezipped. She wasn't wearing any panties.
I said, "Thanks!" rather thickly, and as she sat back down she looked at the older gal in confusion. The other gal explained, "You just flashed him your beaver". She just shrugged her shoulders, and I went back to the pool at the motel.
I'm thinkin' it's a lot more likely you'll get a look at women's naughty bits, or have your mutilated naughty bits revealed in a bathroom than in a bar.
"I'm thinkin' it's a lot more likely you'll get a look at women's naughty bits, or have your mutilated naughty bits revealed in a bathroom than in a bar."
When referring to people who are in the process of having themselves mutilated, you should always refer to them by their real sex, rather than by the sex they are attempting to simulate.
Why is it when you thought the original story was "fishy" you were being skeptical. I question this story and I am a conspiracy theorist. How do we know for sure these two moms were transphobic? Why are you so willing to believe every word of this story? One of the things that seems to be lacking in your comments is the fact that pre teen and teen years are confusing and difficult for everyone. You seem to want to single out some for special treatment at the expense of others. I don't have all the answers Map but if we single out transgender students and give them special treatment this may be just as harmful. They may begin to feel they deserve special treatment.
The reason I thought the original story was fishy was because it was totally contrary to the manner in which these sorts of incidents typically go down. I have never once heard of a real case in which the transgender individual was genuinely the perpetrator; they're always the victims (and believe me, I pay a lot of attention to these sorts of stories).
And you went way beyond merely questioning the story. You claimed that the entire thing, from the beginning, was a ruse set up by the political left in order to attack the political right -- that whole thing was an elaborate, preconceived plot. That makes you a conspiracy theorist.
And we know the moms were transphobic because we have the letter they wrote to try and justify their position. You can read their statements here: http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2013/10/17...
And special treatment? You mean like being allowed to use the same restrooms as everyone else? How does that qualify as special treatment? That's not special treatment -- it's equal treatment.
trolls. arguments based on ad hominem, discredit, name-calling, I hesitate at non-logical because sometimes the discussion will change that kind of thinking...the point is-you're in here and want to have discussions with this group of individuals. I'm in here. I want to have discussions with these individuals. I am not in here to "hit and run." You are not the only one to use down vote for points you disagree with. and you are free to use the point system however. generally, the comments with the most votes rise to the top of the thread. I will often vote for comments I completely disagree with-because my reply to that comment also rises in the thread. As long as we are civil let's have the discussion!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder
Taking an overly simplistic view of any issue can be dangerous.
Perhaps under the strict definition of law, but there are always cases of an elderly spouse ending the suffering of their mate. Many times they are fulfilling a request....
Family of Colorado trans kid targeted by harassment hoax speaks up:
http://www.transadvocate.com/family-of-c...
http://www.transadvocate.com/your-help-r...
Anti-LGBT Group Admits It Invented Story About Transgender Student Harassing Classmates
http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2013/10/17...
Apparently they're trying to justify their hate by claiming that it is a form of harassment for a transgender girl to use the same restrooms as cisgender girls, which of course is ridiculous. -_-
I’m not surprised the story was slanted in various media outlets. The original posting we saw, was after all, the Daily Mail. Still, the fact remains that a previously self identified male has decided to change publicly the gender he/she now wishes to live by. This means the female students who have known this person as a boy now see him/her as an invasion of their privacy. What constitutes harassment to some may be of no consequence to others. The mere presence of a male sportscaster in a women’s locker room and vice versa could be seen as harassment. Special accommodations should be made to provide comfort to all including the transgender student. What is not clear is what gender this person is biologically, what gravity this factor should play if any, and whether one can change their status without a physical/medical change and force themselves into the girl’s public restroom. What doesn't make sense is to allow this person to use whichever facility fits their changeable frame of mind. This seems a bit much to expect children to handle well.
The issue really isn't about the particulars of this incident. It is a larger question about protecting the privacy rights of all equally. I think this is just a case of propriety. Just because someone is concerned about the rights of all does not make one “Transphobic” any more than questioning the probity of a boy knowingly using the girl’s facilities or a girl using the boy’s facilities. If this were of no reasonable concern then there would be no need to identify the facilities by gender. Like I have suggested previously, the answer for the future may be unisex facilities. For .3% of the population you would think that simply letting the rare transgender student use the faculty facilities where adults are the only ones exposed to this private matter would be a better temporary solution. I question the wisdom of the student, their parents and the school administration in making this (what I believe should be a private matter), a public issue by virtue of the solution they chose. It should have been handled more prudently, for the dignity of all concerned. I find it most distressing in that it would seem a most uncomfortable position for the transgender student to now endure such public attention…
Respectfully,
O.A.
I sent money last year to a gay Republican group based here in Maryland, so stop buying the BS that the right-wing are all a bunch of anti-LGBT hate mongers. It’s a big tent and a Grand Ole Party.
And it's possible that Fox News may have deleted the story like all the other news outlets did, but were just a bit slower at doing so.
EDIT: Nope, Fox hasn't removed the story after all. It's right here:
http://nation.foxnews.com/2013/10/14/gir...
Also, keep in mind here that this particular case involved the use of restrooms, not locker rooms, so there would have been no possibility of cisgender girls seeing the transgender girl's genitals unless they peeked into the stalls.
Okay, it's slightly more complicated than that, but I find that that's typically the easiest definition for people who are new to the subject material to wrap their head around. ;)
http://gender.wikia.com/wiki/Cisgender
http://www.advocate.com/politics/transge...
And homophobia is not and has never been listed in the DSM, and I don't know why you would think it was. In the future you ought to double check your sources on that kind of thing.
By the way, there's a documentary called "The Laramie Project" which talks about the murder of Matthew Shepard, a young 21 year-old gay man who was killed simply because a couple of guys thought he was hitting on them (though there's no evidence to prove he actually was). If you want a deeper perspective into the issue, then I'd highly recommend watching it. You can do so here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1qiTmF0p...
Being uncomfortable with people of your same sex hitting on you is understandable, but at the same time you have understand the other side of the issue, which is that gay people often live in constant fear that they'll be beaten or murdered if they make even the tiniest romantic advances towards anyone they find attractive. How would you feel if you had to live with that sort of constant threat hanging over your head your all the time?
http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oc...
this is a recent story, but I read about the book some weeks ago.
Unfortunately, all these terms are wrong.
"Transgender" would refer to being between two forms of language.
Language has gender; people have sex.
The younger one had an eye for my brother, and I had an eye for her.
In the bar I was sitting across from her. She was flirting with my brother who was pretty much ignoring her (his wife was due to deliver his 3rd kid any day).
I had finally given up getting her attention, and was just sitting there sucking on my beer, when she stood up, unzipped her fly and tucked her shirt in, then rezipped. She wasn't wearing any panties.
I said, "Thanks!" rather thickly, and as she sat back down she looked at the older gal in confusion. The other gal explained, "You just flashed him your beaver". She just shrugged her shoulders, and I went back to the pool at the motel.
I'm thinkin' it's a lot more likely you'll get a look at women's naughty bits, or have your mutilated naughty bits revealed in a bathroom than in a bar.
Only if you're peeking into the stalls. :P
When referring to people who are in the process of having themselves mutilated, you should always refer to them by their real sex, rather than by the sex they are attempting to simulate.
And you went way beyond merely questioning the story. You claimed that the entire thing, from the beginning, was a ruse set up by the political left in order to attack the political right -- that whole thing was an elaborate, preconceived plot. That makes you a conspiracy theorist.
And we know the moms were transphobic because we have the letter they wrote to try and justify their position. You can read their statements here:
http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2013/10/17...
And special treatment? You mean like being allowed to use the same restrooms as everyone else? How does that qualify as special treatment? That's not special treatment -- it's equal treatment.
the discussion is good. Let's have them! clearly the discussion is a personal one for you. Persuade away- downvotes are not persuasive.