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Penn Jillette Can’t Have His Gay Wedding Cake and Eat It Too

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"Individuals must be free to choose the terms upon which they exchange with each other, or they are not free. There is no free market without freedom of choice."
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    Posted by dwlievert 9 years ago
    I find the entire discussion SERIOUSLY laughable. If those on the Religious Right would simple redefine their issue from religious freedom to FREEDOM; while those on the Left redefine their issue from gay rights to INDIVIDUAL RIGHTS; then once it became understood that the right to one's life is our ONLY right, with our right to property its only material manifestation, then together we could all support our right to our own lives; while we pursued the JOY OF LIVING.
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    • Posted by MinorLiberator 9 years ago
      While your solution is correct in every way, I believe that neither side would be happy with it, even assuming they understood it.

      I posit that both sides only believe in the irrational and false concept of "group rights". The issue to them is not individual rights, but "religious rights" vs. "gay rights". This is the converse of the old Certs commercials: "Stop, you're both right!". In this case, both sides are wrong.

      As Rand wrote eloquently long ago: "There is no such thing as 'group rights', only individual rights". As implied in this post main quote, each individual should be allowed to decide, for whatever reason whatsoever, whom they wish to trade with. The baker should refuse to bake the cake on those grounds. that "principle" and leave religion out of it, and the gay person/couple are then free to choose another baker, which I am certain they could easily find.

      But then the gays would not be able to pursue their broader agenda of claiming their other "rights", for example, to government goodies only reserved for married couples. (To make myself clear and consistent: I don't have a problem with gays getting married, I DO have a problem with the government engaging in "social engineering" by granting tax breaks, health insurance breaks etc. to married couples over single couples, and gays getting married to claim these rights.)

      As far as the religious and their "religious rights", they cannot recognize individual rights and still insist on trying to impose their religious, non-scientific views on abortion, contraception, certain private "sexual acts" forbidden by the Bible, via laws implemented by the government.
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    • Posted by Herb7734 9 years ago
      Perfect response. But will they listen? Perhaps Jillette will, but the rest of them at CNN would, I'm sure, be bewildered by what you wrote, they are so far away from understanding the nature of freedom.
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    • Posted by term2 9 years ago
      This dude is an entertainer, not a serious philosopher. He is not consistent nor intellectual. At least he is somewhat libertarian, however. Even the founding fathers didnt put things down in the Constitution as you have in the above paragraph. They left glaring loopholes and in fact they asked for freedom to practice THEIR religion as opposed to the king's religion, but not others like the Mormon religion. And what about the slaves and the indians- their rights were violated in the name of the constitution. Its a wonder this country lasted as long as it did. I give it no more than 20 years more and we will see Venezuelan economics here.
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      • Posted by $ blarman 9 years ago
        You might want to listen to some of his discussions with Glenn Beck. He's actually surprisingly articulate and you can tell that he has thought out his positions quite extensively.

        I was actually surprised by the position he put himself in in this discussion because it isn't typical or representative of many of his other discussions (see above). Yes, he did in this debate compromise his position by trying to argue parts of both sides. I was frankly rather surprised because in most cases he's a live-and-let-live guy.
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  • Posted by NealS 9 years ago
    I had a business, selling of exotic and specialty hardwood lumber, etc. I posted signs reading that we could refuse service to anyone for anything. It stipulated we were not responsible for slivers. It also stipulated that children must be kept on a leash (so to speak) inside, as there were all kinds of dangers lurking that we could not protect them from. Power equipment, saws, jointers, up to 20 foot boards standing up on end, thousands of them. We didn't really require a leash, but probably should have. Some idiot complained to some authority and someone actually came out (I forgot which one) and told us to take the sign down. It somehow restricted the rights of children. At first I thought they were joking, but they really don’t have any sense of humor at all. I guess it’s part of that total authority impression they have to maintain. We took the sign down.

    One day a kid came in with daddy. The kid went over to a large cabinet (5’ wide x by 5’ High and 2-1/2’ Deep) with drawers loaded with inventory of steel drawer slides. The kid started to pull out the drawers one at a time until we heard the crash. It sounded as if a small airplane had hit the building. The leveraged weight ripped out the retainers that connected it to a concrete wall. The whole thing tipped over on the kid. God fortunately was just sending the kid a lesson, a few of the draws broke and jammed under the pile which prevented a few thousand pounds of the cabinet from making him into peanut butter. After he was dug out he wasn't hurt at all, not even a scratch, a little embarrassed, but there were several of us that were about to have a heart attack. Later I put up another sign that read, "Unattended Children will be given an Espresso and a Free Puppy". No one complained about that one. I sold the business shortly after that, it just wasn't worth fighting those that always seem to know better about everything. I won’t bore you with a bunch more stories, but I should write a book.

    Funny thing too, how some parents got annoyed about us telling them to please watch their kids. I’d usually tell them that story about the kid getting buried under that cabinet and that would sometimes get the message across. I Thank God every day for my retirement, every day.
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    • Posted by sumitch 9 years ago
      I worked for a while in a Farm and machinery store. One item we sold was work boots. A lady comes in with her child and she leaves him alone. He starts taking down dozens of pairs of boots and leaving them on the floor. I told him to leave the boots alone and go find his parents. Apparently he did because his mom comes tearing around the corner getting in my face and telling that she'll tell her boy what to do and not do. I told her to tell him to leave the boots alone. She tells me that he's not hurting anything. I told her that he's hurting me because I have to put all the boots back up so either tell him to leave the boots alone or leave. Never saw her again. Parents letting their kids run around like wild animals in the Walmart stores is one of the main reasons I won't shop there.
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    • Posted by term2 9 years ago
      I understand completely where you are coming from. By and large, parents today take their children kicking and screaming wherever they go, no matter how dangerous it is for them. They bring them to the buffets in Las Vegas, where they are allowed to run free like its a park, and they go and play with the food on the line with their dirty fingers. One day I complained to a parent about it. I was disgusted. I was met with universal condemnation about hating children, etc. I have decided that in this political climate to just NOT patronize restaurants that have kid's menus and cater to these irresponsible parents. Restaurants need "no children" seating sections, as do airlines. The is no reason to allow 3 year olds into places like Home Depot either- just too dangerous. The only reason I dont get into trouble at Home Depot is that experiences have taught me what to do and what NOT to do. 3 year olds dont have that experience and go climbing on things they shouldnt, and generally get into trouble for it.
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      • Posted by $ rockymountainpirate 9 years ago
        I was in a nicer restaurant a few years ago and the parents let their little kid run amok around the other tables bothering the other dinners, then he lay down on the floor. Not surprisingly, the waitress carrying the hot coffee tripped over him.
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      • Posted by NealS 9 years ago
        Why not, we used to have "No Smoking" sections, why not "No Children" Sections? Did "No Smoking" sections violate anyone's rights? If it did was it the smoker or the non-smoker? Same for "No Children" sections, would they violate anyone's rights? Would it be those with or those without children? So how can participation in a gay, black, white, or interracial wedding be forced on anyone? In any case this is no place for the federal government to impose someone's (like Harry's or Nancy's)whims.
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  • Posted by jpellone 9 years ago
    Why couldn't the gay couple just buy a standard wedding cake and then after taking it home, put the other guy or gal on the cake?

    What ever happened to "We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone."

    The Government needs to stay out of this kind of thing, and healthcare too!!!!!!!
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    • Posted by jpellone 9 years ago
      Oh, and why is there not the same outrage over Muslim businesses? I want the Muslim meat market to carry pork or baker to make a gay cake. This is getting OUT OF CONTROL!!!!!!
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      • Posted by khalling 9 years ago
        this is an orchestrated assault on Christianity, that's why
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        • Posted by $ Snezzy 9 years ago
          Right. We train horses, and it's what we call a "set-up". You want the horse who occasionally tries to bite people to learn that he must never even THINK of biting. How to correct him? You deliberately create a situation where he will try biting you, and you have the punishment ready. (We usually punish the biter by biting him, exactly as another horse would do. "You even THINK about biting me and you get bitten!")

          Because the training is just for the horse, not for the general public, we do that training in private. You won't see me biting my horse. All you'll see is that my horse never bites anyone.

          If, however, you are trying to TRAIN THE PUBLIC, you create a PUBLIC set-up. The baker, and >>> anyone who chooses to agree with the baker <<< is caught and punished. The punishment is PUBLIC SHAME. The baker (and all who fail to follow the Correct Religion) are placed in the stocks on Salem Common, ready for thrown stones and vegetables. Hanging for Witchcraft is reserved for a later time.
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          • Posted by Kittyhawk 9 years ago
            You actually bite the horse back? I've never heard of that. Do you get a mouthful of fur?
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            • Posted by $ Snezzy 9 years ago
              Yes. It is far preferable, I assure you, to allowing the horse to get a mouthful of ME. We bite biters, and we kick kickers. They usually straighten out quickly, and it's nothing one horse wouldn't do to another. My teeth are always handy, too, so I can punish within the two-second timeframe where the horse can associate the punishment with his action.

              Then I spit out the fur.
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              • Posted by Kittyhawk 9 years ago
                Interesting. I had two horses growing up, and they weren't biters, luckily. But somebody else's horse chomped my son when we went riding at some nearby stables a few years back. I was mad enough to bite that horse, but didn't think it would actually help!
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        • Posted by sumitch 9 years ago
          That and there are so many people that just can't keep their noses our of everyone's business.
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          • Posted by term2 9 years ago
            In this climate, one has to figure out how to "hide in plain sight", where you can be free, but not be noticed. If you dont want to bake a lot of cakes for gays (I say why not, their money is as good as anyones), dont open a shop in a gay area. If you dont want to serve people in the black culture in your restaurant for whatever reason, dont offer the foods they prefer or open up in areas where they dont frequent. Just do it quietly.
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      • Posted by 100inputs 9 years ago
        Rational people, do not want the power of the government gun, to coerce their fellow man, is why. The right, and only answer, is to fight for one's freedom of association. Until enough people understand the concept once again.
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        • Posted by jpellone 9 years ago
          Since when are libs and naïve people rational???
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          • Posted by 100inputs 9 years ago
            The concept "rationality" does not mean mistakes cannot be made. Even a rational person can be mistaken. Rationality is a self correcting system; and it's method is logic. It literally means to use logic to arrive at the "truth". And the 'truth' of the matter means that it is real, it is in reality, it exists. To arrive at the truth is to arrive at reality!! Reality is. But it is for you to answer "what it is". And so the task of rationality is "to ask the right question". The answer(reality) is there already but the 'question' is for your mind to ask. Do you understand, the function of the mind is to ask questions! Thankfully, rationality can be taught; otherwise there would be no hope for you, and your own nativity toward the concept. Yeah, even a liberal can be taught to be rational. Think of it like this, one does not start out rational and work their way toward nativity. One starts out naive until one gains knowledge. So, the liberal and the naive just have to work their brain cells that little bit more to catch up to you. I say they are capable of catching up. Or are your powers of logical persuasion inadequate to the task? What has been your input to the cause of rationality and how do you defend your rights?
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            • Posted by 9 years ago
              There are other sources of input that, however irrational, continue to distract many from learning to discern the truth. Overcoming the propaganda machine is difficult for even the best rational persuasive arguments. Of course, one can persist and continue to develop more persuasive arguments. However, it is also rational not to waste scarce resources.
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              • Posted by 100inputs 9 years ago
                Yes, all of that is part of the weighing up process.
                At which point one says enough is enough, reason has lost, and violent revolution is the only recourse left. Or, as I said, there is still hope. It is still a battle of ideas(of what is "rights" and what is 'wrong') and reason still has a chance to win back our "rights".
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  • Posted by DaveM49 9 years ago
    I have never understood why anyone would want to patronize and purchase items--especially edible items--from someone who does not want their business. Leaving all other considerations aside, why would you want to support that person's ideas?

    The question is one of private property. Nothing more or less.
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    • Posted by term2 9 years ago
      There are a LOT of bakers out there. Just go to one who wants to trade services for your money. We make choices all the time in terms of who has friendly personnel, fast service, best price, best quality, etc. I would rather know right off if someone didnt like me, than have to try and trick the shopkeeper by lying about who I was. If Obama came into my shop to buy something, I would probably refuse service to him and I should be allowed to openly do that.
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      • Posted by DaveM49 9 years ago
        Quite so. If I go to a restaurant or a barber or any other service provider and get lousy service....I don't go back. It would be ridiculous to try to force them to cater to my desires--and not worth the effort to try.

        As you say, there are a lot of bakeries out there. This situation has also created an opportunity for one or more of them to put a "gay friendly" or similar sign in the window and pick up at least some of the business others do not want.

        A business owner who believes that his or her customers' money has different values or ideological content is a fool. But one is, after all, allowed to be a fool if one so chooses. If it shows in the bank balance, business owners can draw their own conclusions.
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  • Posted by DaveM49 9 years ago
    One could also turn this around, which the article does to some extent: what if the consumer was forced to buy from a specific vendor? What if that requirement held true regardless of price or quality? Whose ideology would be in question then?
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    • Posted by MinorLiberator 9 years ago
      All we need do is look at history, and also at current laws and regulations in today's "government": the Government certainly does tell us who to buy from in many cases, e.g. cable/Internet monopolies among other things...and you'll certainly see a lot of Leftists protesting that (and a lot of intelligent people, too).
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      • Posted by DaveM49 9 years ago
        Very true. For those who remember the days of "the phone company", that was a monopoly subsidized and protected by government regulation. The Bell System was "broken up" in 1978 via somewhat questionable legal means, only to be replaced by another generation of service providers operating under the same protections "the phone company" enjoyed for many years.

        Mind, over the years, Bell Telephone came out on the wrong side of a number of court cases involving their private property. I believe some of these were suits filed by or on behalf of the government.
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        • Posted by MinorLiberator 9 years ago
          Yes, the "Baby Bells" weren't much better.

          And I'm fairly certain this is true: cell phone technology is based on the WWII "walkie-talkie", which is more believable if you remember the earliest cell phones and what they looked like. I believe that without AT&T and its lobbyists, we could have had non-intrusive, wireless communications long before we did...
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          • Posted by DaveM49 9 years ago
            Amateur radio operators using the 2 and six meter bands were using "repeater networks" as far back as the 70s, possibly earlier. The communication protocols used by these networks were the ancestors of both the internet and cellular communications.
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  • Posted by ObjectiveAnalyst 9 years ago
    You cannot have freedom of association without the right to disassociate. If a privately held business owner loses business because of discrimination let the market take care of it. The government should stay out of it. The supporters of Jim Crow laws were those that wished to discriminate and use the government to do so. They were upset that some businesses were catering to everyone and taking business from them. The laws were unjust and the government should not have been on either side. The market would penalize those that discriminated and reward those that didn't. Without government support those businesses that suffered losses had to change their business practices or suffer the market consequences. If you do not like a business's practices you are free to discriminate against them by not patronizing their establishment.
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    • Posted by sumitch 9 years ago
      If you'll pardon a quick story.

      A barber shop had a sign outside saying "Hair Cuts $1.00". Someone opened competition across the street with a sign that said "Hair Cuts 50 Cents". The first shop changed their sign to read "We Fix 50 Cent Hair Cuts. $1.00".

      They didn't go running to the guv'ment crying unfair. They just took care of bid'ness.
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    • Posted by MinorLiberator 9 years ago
      I agree. I'm not a legal expert so if I'm wrong about this, I'm sure someone will let me know: I believe the Civil Rights Act of 1964 went too far in that it started us down the road of "group rights" by applying its attempts to halt discrimination to the private sector. Had it restricted itself to making it illegal for States to make laws that forced private businesses to discriminate against blacks, that would have a been a properly limited Federal response, similar to Roe v. Wade making choice legal in all States where it was illegal.

      It may have taken some time for competition to overcome entrenched cultural bias and eventually desegregate all private establishments, but that would have been both morally proper and infinitely better than the subsequent myriad of similar Federal laws (and their attendant, expensive and inherently "discriminatory" bureaucracies) favoring other groups like women, gays, the "disabled" etc. ad infinitum.
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  • Posted by $ jlc 9 years ago
    It is amusing the degree to which we seem to be saying:

    Penn = Yay!
    This incident == Oops!

    Jan
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    • Posted by khalling 9 years ago
      alright. that was directed at me. it is a contradiction in a long line of great and consistent thinking and putting his money where his mouth is. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate and cite his Bullshit series. Also, if you did not read my review of Tim's Vermeer, consider watching it. brilliant and Penn funded. Out of almost any performer with a pulpit I can think of-he deserves an oops...and so does Teller (who was in our movie)
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      • Posted by $ jlc 9 years ago
        I loved his Bullshit series. I did note that he 'weighted the odds' in several cases...but he did so in such an amusing manner that I was diverted and not outraged. For example, in the anti-martial arts segment, the most artificial and spacy of the genre were selected to demonstrate how useless martial arts are. Now - I agree that martial arts does not beat a pro with a gun, but there are many occasions when martial arts are superior to firepower. But the Penn and Teller segment showed a woman who communed with her kidneys...not what I would use to demonstrate usefulness.

        Tim's Vermeer? No. I missed that. I have just looked it up on IMDB. Not the sort of movie I would generally watch, but I will give it a shot.

        Jan
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      • Posted by term2 9 years ago
        We cant expect him as a comedian to be a consistent philospher too. He is better than most of the entertainers out there, so I cant chastise him. He could be a bit more consistent in his libertarian ideas if he thought about them more. But, in his defense, even the founding fathers made some glaring errors in the constitution, like not protecting private property. They crowed about life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness (whatever that is), but left out property. The result was the cronyism we see today.
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  • Posted by JoleneMartens1982 9 years ago
    That cake maker should appeal that case in Colorado! That's crap. There's no way I would be forced to do something I do not believe in. I believe to each there own, if you wanna be gay more power to you, but I expect you to respect my right to be straight. You cannot tell me this couple could not find a gay cake maker in Colorado. Seriously, that is too far, forcing a business to restructure for a market they do not wish to target? I find this sickening, one step closer to communism.
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    • Posted by term2 9 years ago
      I tell straight people that I will tolerate their straight sex behavior if they will tolerate my gay behavior. Straight sex is just as viscerally disgusting to gays as gay sex is to straights. I dont like collard greens and find them disgusting, but do like broccoli and find it pleasurable. I bet there are people out there who feel the opposite way. So what. Believe me, gays dont want to force straights NOT to have straight sex, so straights shouldnt try to force gays NOT to have gay sex. So many problems in the world, and we worry about such nonsense.
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    • Posted by 9 years ago
      I agree. That is the kind of government action that most angers me. The small business owner may have worked his entire life to build his business to support his family and government looters have assumed the power to destroy his business and ignore his right to operate it according to his morality. He chooses to risk losing business because of his beliefs. Any government that tries to intervene should be C-R-U-S-H-E-D.
      You want a cake? I'll bake you a damned cake. Spend your honeymoon in the toilet you ignorant savage.
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      • Posted by sumitch 9 years ago
        It's forcing someone to support a life style they don't approve of. Kinda like us putting the whoop arse on any country that doesn't want our brand of government.

        Let them take a flying leap if they want but don't call us for catch net. And remember, mess in my garden and yours will never grow poesies again. Kinda like what Rome did to Carthage after the final Punic war.
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  • Posted by $ Thoritsu 9 years ago
    Penn is just awesome. This is just a woops.

    I agree with him. The people who refuse business to gay people are medieval ding-a-lings. However, the government has no business legislating against any ding-a-lings.
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    • Posted by scojohnson 9 years ago
      I agree, this has always been my viewpoint. The gays try to make it something like or equivalent to a civil rights march, and the zealots on the other side make it sound like the world will crumble if a gay person walks into the wedding cake store.

      Businesses have always had the right to refuse service, when I was a kid it was "no shirt, no shoes, no service!". Now I see young girls in the summer with so little on they might as well be naked. Is it disruptive if they walk around a crowded shopping mall like that? Yeah, and it might draw a level of risk of violence or something that isn't welcome to a shopkeep or something (I'm just speculating). Does the coffee shop implode because the girl with a Brazilian string bikini with dental floss up the butt crack implode because she walked in to get a coffee on the way to the beach? Probably not.

      There are varying levels I'm saying, I'm sure.

      Here's an example - I used to work in downtown Sacramento, and was a member of a very upscale private health club. Private locking lockers (full locker room style ones) for every member, they did your laundry so you didn't have to carry a gym bag or anything, fresh disposable razors / toiletries provided after your shower, and its where I even learned to really appreciate Pinnaud after shave lotion. Each (mens/womens) locker room had its own steam bath, sauna, and a spa the size of a typical residential swimming pool.

      Only one flaw, it was really frequented by the gays... not always, but certain / days or evenings, my gay-dar went off in the locker room. You'd walk through the door in the men's locker and there is 'Hans' or whatever, completely naked with his junk out, standing by the front door shooting the breeze with Larry while shaving. Straight guys put a towel around their waist to stand & shave or something - not the gays, they want to advertise their 'assets'.

      Then you had the gay couple hanging nude in the spa like it's a private bathtub for two at home... etc.

      I only went at lunch during the day, so I never had an issue, but on a couple of times I stopped in after work when 'that crowd' was there, and I was very uncomfortable. Both because I'm not into watching that, but also because I wouldn't want to be a spare-wheel at a straight-couple's date #3 either.

      Here's my point, in some kinds of professional services - I would lump that one as one of them, the business might be detrimental by the loss of other paying customers. They didn't lose me as a customer, when I stopped working downtown it just wasn't worth the trip every day, so I moved to another club, but nothing is even close to their level of service. But, if I were only looking for an evening club to use, at the time, I would have dropped that one promptly.

      My wife had the same experience, she was being hit on regularly in the women's locker for a muff-diving job in the women's spa. She doesn't miss the place either, other than the service level of the employees & the facility.

      I'm sure 85% keep their hands to themselves, but there is that small minority - the ones that need to be naked in chaps or whatever on gay pride day - etc, the do act like that in public and can make others uncomfortable. I'm sure women experience the jerk-factor of some men, but at least they get used to it growing up.

      Not an easy answer, but in my example, the gym would have probably had a better business & membership base if they were able to weed-out the ones that didn't play well with others (not all gays, just the obnoxious ones).

      If I've talked about it to people that have also had memberships, the comment they make is always "lots of gays there". No, it wasn't in the gay district, etc., actually only a couple of blocks from the California Capitol in the government district.
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      • Posted by 9 years ago
        Sounds like the club needed a sign in the locker room, "No Nude Loitering" or something more clever if the management were concerned about the overt gay meat market atmosphere.
        Bottom line is use common sense and respect the rights of others. In my opinion,no one, regardless of gender or sexual preference, should be purposefully offending others in a private club, but the owners of the business should not be told by government edict what rules are appropriate. Some actions that are appropriate in your private bath are inappropriate in a health club by most people. The club owners in this case chose a "hands off" policy and let the customers decide. That is great. If the management had chosen to be more strict with those who thought of the club as a meat market that would also be great. The customers have a right to choose where to go, but not to force their morality on the owner or the other patrons.

        I don't care what Penn says. He is just another person with an opinion, and I have more respect for people here than for Penn. He is an entertainer, like Rush Limbaugh et al, and more likely to be a propaganda tool. In comparison, I have much more respect for George Carlin. Penn, if you are here anonymously, I mean no disrepect ;^)
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        • Posted by khalling 9 years ago
          well you never watched Bullshit then. I also had alot of respect for Carlin. cynical bastard
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          • Posted by 9 years ago
            No, I never watched Penn's Bullshit series. Haven't had a tv in many years and no friend recommended it until now. Thanks!!!!
            I will start watching as soon as I can find it ;^)
            You have any favorite episodes to recommend?
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          • Posted by 9 years ago
            Your "cynical" is my "rational realist" ;^)
            If I believed that old saying "A cynic is a realist who's dreams were crushed and became bitter", I might have called him cynical, too.
            Some people see things as they are and say why, Carlin saw things as they were and exposed the charade, often with comedic effect.
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      • Posted by term2 9 years ago
        So the proprietor should have been allowed to specifically cater to gays or straights as his business plan dictated so you knew what you were getting into when you joined. Obviously the gay people were going there for to interact with other gays, not straight people. Its a little like the restaurants that have kid's menus. You are inviting screamers, as I call them, who run loose around the restaurant screaming and crying under no parental control. People like me who want a quieter dining experience should be allowed to sit in a quieter "no children" section. But in todays culture, imagine the uproar if a restaurant announced no children under 5 permitted, or isolated parents with children in a special section? Unfortunately I am sure its illegal to do this. So, I have to stay away from sit down restaurants that have kids menus, or whose inexpensive menus attract kids, and keep quiet about my views (lest I be labeled as a kid hater). As a result of all this, I have to admit I stay away from kids in general because of the way parents refuse to keep them under control in public. The worst are the welfare mothers, mostly black and mexican and trailer park whites.
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        • Posted by scojohnson 9 years ago
          My wife & I are with you on that... we raised our kids (we believed in the seen but not-heard in a public location) and we don't have grandkids yet, no interest in listening to other people's collection of them.

          If they have the kiddie menu or the crayons at the table, I'm out of there...

          We stick to Thai spicy restaurants, steakhouses that only serve veggies with the meat, and the occasional gastropub of some type, it's amazing how few children we see when we go out.

          Chuck-E-Cheese... never happening. All you can eat Pizza & Soda, not on your life...

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      • Posted by $ Thoritsu 9 years ago
        Like Jan, my experiences with gay people has generally been polite, even when I've been solicited.

        Your example is an interesting flip on why we have separate locker rooms for men and women to begin with. Should we have two more locker rooms, or should we just have one for all?
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        • Posted by scojohnson 9 years ago
          Yeah, I can't say I've ever met a particularly rude gay person, nor would I give that impression... but you don't see many hetero people (as a percentage of a population) that will assume they can make a pass at someone and take them home. The casual sex thing, since the 60's, is definitely more of a gay community phenomenon.
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          • Posted by $ Thoritsu 9 years ago
            My very limited experience agrees. Perhaps it is precipitated by the scarcity of subjects and pseudo-underground nature. If one is shunned even if one is subtle, a barrier to promiscuity is lifted.

            I have two male gay close friends, one who we go out with regularly. He and his partner are more reserved than most straight couples, which I appreciate, since as open-minded as I wish to be, I'd rather not observe significant male-to-male intimacy. However the other is so flamboyant, comical and charismatic, it is impossible to be offended by him.
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            • Posted by sumitch 9 years ago
              I had a similar situation. I had an antique store and a gay man would come in now and then. He was obviously gay, but didn't make an issue of it. I knew he was, he knew I knew he was. He was fun to talk with. We got along great.

              One day he comes into my shop looking glum. I asked him what was wrong. He just kinda sighed and say "I just need a good man". I about died laughing until my wife paused her laughing and said "Me Too". Now that's just rude.
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            • Posted by scojohnson 9 years ago
              Seems to reflect a friend of my wife's. The guy is so 'out there' - wearing dresses, going to drag contests, etc., that you only have to chuckle, and he's completely harmless to straight guys, which I appreciate. I agree, I'd rather not look at a couple of dudes with thick beards making out.
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      • Posted by $ jlc 9 years ago
        If hetero solicitations on an equivalent level had been occurring to her, your wife might have called the cops. The gay folks I know tend to be meticulously polite, but I have heard many stories like the one you tell about other elements of the gay community. I hope that it is just a transition phase and that similar standards of good behavior will become customary for both gay and hetero interactions.

        Jan
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        • Posted by khalling 9 years ago
          the variable is California. I have many gay friends and that would never happen. but I also know some other friends who are ostensibly hetereo who are much looser in the sexuality space bubble arena. I never appreciated that feature of any club I belonged to. I'm weird like that. don't get me started on touching door knobs or wiping down spin bikes...lol
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        • Posted by scojohnson 9 years ago
          I'm not looking for answers, just saying that business owners have a right to protect themselves.

          When we had the Yes on Prop 8 campaign here, the militant gays went after the donors that happened to be business owners. Posted their children's pictures on the web, where they go to school, where the donors live, etc.

          They did nothing but exercise their freedom of speech. That is why I have little respect for the gay community, or the libs.. With those, it's free speech, but only if aligned with their own - all others are to be muzzled.

          I was an American soldier, I fought for the freedoms for everyone, not just select groups.

          If their actions and speech can't stand up to some critical thought, maybe they need to adjust their actions or speech.

          It's a country founded by judeo-Christian beliefs, and they dominate our culture, but we are also an opening and gracious people that governs all with equality. They need to be heard, I dont dispute that, but their rights end where they curtail those same rights of others, they never understand that.
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          • Posted by $ jlc 9 years ago
            Yes, and the militant Christians, and the militant feminists, and the militant liberals, and the mil...you get the idea.

            I too was an American soldier, and raised my hand for freedom. I do not really give a hoot about the Judeo-Christian belief set, except that a lot of the churches in that group seem to have gotten beyond their extremist mindset...which makes them OK neighbors. Buddists are good neighbors too.

            Yes, the gay community should not curtail the rights of others. But cummon: They have only been outted for about 40 years; even feminists have been public longer than gays. There is going to be some thrashing around whilst they figure out how to interact with the rest of society. Look - they even confused Penn!

            So while we all think that the right solution is for stores to be able to 'have the right to refuse service to anyone' (and for stores with "gays welcome" signs on their doors to make better profits), there is going to be some wrong steps taken, wrong statements said.

            The gay people I know would not have accosted you or your wife in a rude manner in a locker room. And they are supporting the idea that people should choose to preferentially patronize stores that say "gays welcome" - I mean actually supporting it.

            Jan
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            • Posted by scojohnson 9 years ago
              I'm guessing that where you live, it hasn't gone as far as they want it to yet... keep in mind, last year we passed a law requiring schools to allow 'gay & transgender' children to select which bathroom and locker room and sports teams they "most identify with".

              I don't get that stuff, use the bathroom that matches the equipment provided... As a woman, how's your general feeling to walking into the ladies room and seeing a dude hike up the dress and pee standing up with the stall open? Keep in mind... it can and does happen...

              Similarly, lets say we have a couple of 7 foot / 190 lb guys that decide that they would really rather be on the girl's high school basketball team, of course, they dominate the field, and it pushes out girls that would have otherwise been on the team (their parents are paying taxes to). Do these guys go on to get NCAA scholarships in women's basketball from whatever Ivy League school (again pushing out someone that would have otherwise been granted one)? I would guess at the Olympic or professional level, that gets tossed out, but its already happening at the high school & collegiate level it looks like.

              I have a couple of gay friends from high school, 1 was pretty obviously gay back then (in the 80's), and I don't think it was any surprise to anyone when he came out of the closet. Another one I was rather surprised about when he married his friend in Puerto Vallarta (he's lived there for years) and claims he's not gay, only his husband is. My wife and I hung out with him for a day while we were on vacation last summer, didn't meet his friend, but we spent the day drinking beers with him. He was still the same guy I knew growing up, hadn't changed, and in hindsight I wasn't totally surprised. He felt the need to come out and 'tell us' to clear the air, but I think he was expecting I'd be upset or shocked, but I wasn't (and knew beforehand).

              And I guess there was a third, one that tried to avoid being gay, or acting like it, but made a pass at a very straight person and got the crap kicked out of him, haven't heard from him since he left around middle of junior year, although I know he was shacked up with a guy in his 70's while he was in his 20's... I'm sure his conservative Catholic parents probably disowned him.
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              • Posted by $ jlc 9 years ago
                I live in the north part of Los Angeles County.

                I think the problem is not 'gayness' but 'rudeness'. Just because someone is gay does not mean they have a right to be rude; just because someone is gay does not mean that a straight person has the right to be rude to them. One would hope that #3's conservative Catholic parents came to the conclusion that their son was still important to them...there are some Catholics who have no problem with this.

                Jan
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                • Posted by scojohnson 9 years ago
                  You are right, even the Catholic church is changing a little (slowly).

                  I agree 100% though, it's not the gay or straight, it's the rude. Seemed like for a long time, it was necessary to wear their status on their sleeve... most didn't, but it was the obnoxious few that stood out enough for all of them.
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  • Posted by Danno 9 years ago
    Replace 'Gay Couple' with 'Black Couple'. Sexual orientation is not a philosophical position as the writer seems to imply.
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    • Posted by $ blarman 9 years ago
      Incorrect. Rights are individual. There is no action required to either be or remain black. One can be subject to sexual preferences, but until one _acts_ upon that enticement, one is neither gay, straight, or anything else. The difference is significant and can not be conflated.
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  • Posted by teri-amborn 9 years ago
    Holding to boundaries and principles is neither hurting nor destroying anyone or anything, therefore it's not a crime.
    Using the legal system to wage a type of ideological war and decimate the lives of those who hold to principles antithetical to your whims is criminal behavior.
    It's called the free market paired with emotional maturity. Grow up and go up.
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  • Posted by $ blarman 9 years ago
    I look at the matter from a business standpoint. The only problem comes up when gays want their weddings catered. Why is that?

    It all comes down to brand marketing. Businesses have the right to control the representation of their brand within the market. The Supreme Court has ruled this way on several occasions as the right of expression and a right of association guaranteed under the First Amendment.

    When a company hosts an event, they are branding that event with their name. They are saying that they welcome the association of that event with their business. People do business according to their values. Forcing a business to hold an event branded with their name is forcing them to agree to the set of values represented by that event. It's as simple as that.

    If you want to be able to be free to select with whom you associate and attach your name, you should support the right of every business to decide what events they choose to support or not.
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  • Posted by term2 9 years ago
    Unfotunately in this politically correct environment, the baker will have to close up shop and at least move to another place where they dont know him. No matter if he bakes cakes for gay people now, they wont go to him most likely cause they know in his heart he is still anti gay. Others wont go to him because they will be thought of as anti-gay. So he should plan on radically reduced business and make plans to either close up or move his shop to somewhere else.
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  • Posted by TomSwift 9 years ago
    I have always been somewhat torn on this entire debate. Substitute "gay" for "black" in this forum and most of the comments on this forum are the same you would have heard 50 years ago. "Damn nigras, flaunting their deviant life around me. The Bible says they are inferior so don't want their black germs in my shop". Jim Crow was around for a long time in the Southern US and the arguments in support of Jim Crow were probably the same as those who are in support of banning homosexuals from their businesses. If you believe that the colour of someone's skin or their sexual orientation makes them inferior to you, or deviant, you are wrong. However, I also believe that laws that force a business to sell their services or products to someone the business do not want to service are wrong as well. If Jim Crow was not legally repealed, would it still exist? Is this how Jim Crow starts?
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    • Posted by 9 years ago
      In this current case, I think the market can deal with the issue. In the case of Jim Crow laws, the issue would have taken a lot longer for the market to correct since the law itself was imposing an impediment that in part prevented the equal participation of the people in the market. It was the laws that imposed the separation, not the market.
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    • Posted by $ WilliamShipley 9 years ago
      Keep in mind Jim Crow was the legal structure, it was government action. What we are debating here is private decision. So is this the same as refusing to serve blacks?

      For the most part the issue isn't serving gays but being a participant in gay marriage. But the question remains whether businesses have the right to decide who to serve or not. If it's their right, we don't get to judge their motives. I don't accept that you have to have a religion to have rights.

      I would suggest that, for the most part, individual preference should prevail. We do not have a culture where no gay man can get a cake or a photographer, these are isolated incidents -- in many cases deliberately sought out for political reasons. I think it's terrible that the KKK was able to force the black business in Georgia to serve them.

      Instead of considering the civil rights legislation the paradigm of how we should deal with differences, why not consider the remnants of slavery as a special case that was so pervasive that it required special action.
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      • Posted by TomSwift 9 years ago
        I like that. I did not realize that the Jim Crow laws were actually laws, which makes it worse. It took special action to get rid of it and I doubt that that this new Jim Crow law will work, especially due to the ridicule and scorn any company will receive due to its ridiculous beliefs. That said, you should still have the right to refuse service to whomever you want, but in this day of social networking, you better have a damn good reason.
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    • Posted by term2 9 years ago
      I am not racist, but definitely culturist. By that I means I have preferences in people based on their culture. Its a generalization of course, but will millions of people around, its very inefficient on a mass scale to treat each person as their own person right off. After you get to know individuals, of course, its different. I can tell you that I do not like the current black entitled culture and in general do not want to sell things to them. Their expectations are way out there and they are arrogant. Just go to a fast food restaurant and watch how they act. I would rather patronize sit down places that do not cater to that group in general. Sorry- its politically incorrect, but thats the way it is. If their food is good and they have drive-through, I might go there in any event. Force me to deal with groups I dont like and I will shrug or move to a place where I am not controlled.
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