The silence is deafening... Wake UP America!: The Journals of Ayn Rand
"...Anything strong and intense, passionate and absolute, anything that can't be taken with a snickering little 'sense of humor'--is too big, too hard, too uncomfortable for them..."
I'm reading Objectivity: The Philosophy of AR; and they (AR & Peikoff) categorize human relationships into four basic categories. Friends, acquaintances, strangers, and enemies. At first I thought it funny that there was nothing said about family. Then, of course, I realized that family easily breaks down into those categories. The definition of a friend is one with whom you have shared values and virtues; one whom you respect and who respects you. By this definition, I'm sure most could get their friend count down to only a very select few. Acquaintances are a dime a dozen. These are most that we must deal with in our daily lives. In my experience, most of these are people that Rand would refer to as "second-handers". They poses little potential for creativity or production. They rely on others to intellectually spoon feed them with what they need. They possess not passion, drive, or goals; but instead, whim, fleeting emotion, and aimlessness. These are the most dangerous to our well-being. They are the moochers, who use the good in people to their advantage, whether it is for food or thought, but ultimately, for no fair exchange of value.
"A parasite, biologically, is a creature that lives on or in an organism of another species. The second-hander, however, is unique. He has no counterpart in the world of biology. He is a parasite on his own species."
"All of these types are "fed by the minds of others" in the literal sense of "fed." All want the effects of reason without the need of exercising the faculty. All seek not to practice virtue or abolish it but, in AR's eloquent phrase, to be "hitchhikers of virtue."
Quotes from Objectivity.
For instance our children are taught to understand basic concepts so they can meet requirements and pass a test, not for the love of the knowledge or learning itself. They are taught to acquire facts, not to think. They are also taught that all ideas are a matter of opinion and that none are any better or worse than any others. Whether your foundation is the 10 commandments or the 'virtue of selfishness', the reality is that you must have some sort of foundation / absolute to have any opinion or care. For those with no starting point or absolute, nothing has any meaning.
You have to get people to understand the basics before you can get into big ideas. You have to get them to accept that there are certain truths and that those truths are 'right' or 'wrong' because they are, not because of someone's opinion. If you can get someone to understand that, then you can build from there into bigger ideas about liberty, freedom, sound basis for economy etc.
We have taught all of our children about the founding of the nation and the growth of 'greco-roman' civilization, as well as the judeo-christian foundation of our nation. All of them have strong opinions about the role of government in their lives and in the economy. All have bought their own cars and a good portion of their own clothes, etc, from age 16 on. We still help with costs/issues while they are home but encourage them to think for themselves, even if we don't agree! I'd rather someone disagree BASED ON REASON, then follow along blindly.
Anyway, to the point of the post... I have two what I would call good friends that believe similarly.. that's it.. Most people are not capable of holding a coherent conversation, let alone having a reasoned opinion. If you can't be yourself around them, that is not a true friend.
It took me 5 years of start and stop reading to finish Atlas Shrugged and it scared my how close the last 8 years have been to the beginning of the book. I am now evangelizing whenever possible in a rational tone to anyone who will listen where we are headed. So far with my predictions on Ocare, I've been right and people around me are noticing I am not full of BS. Credibility earned. once we as a group have that, we will get control of the government again. god luck and keep up the fight. I don't think we need to disappear like in the book, its not too late.
most people are like you describe. but there is a significant number of people who understand but have not committed to their desires or values. They may join in the snickering, but they are aware and can commit if they really want to.