You won't find the Utopia you described. Weather-wise, San Diego meets your description, but it's in (urk!) California, close to the border. Hawaii is beautiful, but ungodly expensive, and more socialist than California, with poor medical services (shortage of specialists).

Too much hysteria over tornadoes. A hurricane is 200 miles wide, which is kind of hard to avoid, and usually spins off tornadoes to make matters worse. A tornado is at most 1/4 mile wide, and there are very good warning systems that tell you when to batten down. I retired to Oklahoma ten years ago, and installed a tornado shelter, which I have only occupied once, and no tornado damage.

The people here are kind and generous to a fault, the Summers are hot but dry, the Winters are mild, with little snow. The cost of living is low, and business is booming, with the going rate for first time workers around $13-15/hr, no experience necessary. Oklahoma City is fantastic for retirees, with plentiful medical services, senior discounts on everything, and affordable housing.

The Muslim community has good relations with their neighbors, with frequent get-togethers with folks of other religious persuasions. No sign of any extremist folk.

Daddy was only 35 at the time, but 17 years in the Army can age a person. Almost certainly when they serve in combat three times! Korea during the Conflict and two tours in Viet Nam.