Is Expecting less of self or life the key to happiness?
A Doctor Explains His Prescription for Happiness
In the article the women's age or generation was not revealed. If she was a Millennial, that would be understandable. They have been taught that they are great with no evidence what so ever that they possess any greatness...whether they actually won or failed at anything was a moot point in their upbringing...they were doomed to be disappointed.
However, what about everyone else...are normal Americans just geared to expect more of themselves?;...and to what extent do we expect more of our selves? By who's definition?..this might be a key aspect as well.
I think it all comes down to knowing your strengths, what your good at, your essence and what activity causes you to be happy. One's "Friday Night Essence" so to speak. (what activity do you have to be dragged away from in order to engage in your favorite activity on a Friday night.)
Many of us, eventually figure this out but millennial's were blindsided from the start. They were never allowed to just observe, enjoy or engage the world on their own when young either.
But, perhaps the prescription is correct in the sense that one should not just sit on one's collective butt and worry, obsess or indulge in self pity.
Looking on the bright side and appreciating the little things, nature and doing or trying something new is always a good thing.
[Now, if we were talking about government...expecting less of a government charged with doing very little in the first place, would make me...ecstatic! However, with a government that has assumed to do more than what it is charged with doing and epically failing every time...one has no choice but to expect less until we fill it with people that expect more from themselves...and can deliver!]
In the article the women's age or generation was not revealed. If she was a Millennial, that would be understandable. They have been taught that they are great with no evidence what so ever that they possess any greatness...whether they actually won or failed at anything was a moot point in their upbringing...they were doomed to be disappointed.
However, what about everyone else...are normal Americans just geared to expect more of themselves?;...and to what extent do we expect more of our selves? By who's definition?..this might be a key aspect as well.
I think it all comes down to knowing your strengths, what your good at, your essence and what activity causes you to be happy. One's "Friday Night Essence" so to speak. (what activity do you have to be dragged away from in order to engage in your favorite activity on a Friday night.)
Many of us, eventually figure this out but millennial's were blindsided from the start. They were never allowed to just observe, enjoy or engage the world on their own when young either.
But, perhaps the prescription is correct in the sense that one should not just sit on one's collective butt and worry, obsess or indulge in self pity.
Looking on the bright side and appreciating the little things, nature and doing or trying something new is always a good thing.
[Now, if we were talking about government...expecting less of a government charged with doing very little in the first place, would make me...ecstatic! However, with a government that has assumed to do more than what it is charged with doing and epically failing every time...one has no choice but to expect less until we fill it with people that expect more from themselves...and can deliver!]
They think it will all happen automatically, it's expected.
They also expect to achieve at the same level as the greatest before them with nothing to back it up...again, they have been taught equal outcomes and that we are all exactly the same.
But I think, what the article is trying to get across, is that if it bothers you that much to make you depressed, then you should try to observe all that is around you in the moment, being preoccupied with what your not, hides the forest with the trees.
I have also observed that most people respond to your (expected) assumptions about them because of the way you treat them...ie, expecting the best of them...(notice I said "Most")
I'm sure that is a strange statement to make when one lives in a state with the greatest concentration of psychopaths and Schizophrenic's second only to the District of Columbia.
I have also learned to choose wisely in the area of sharing knowledge.
You certainly have a worthy circle of friends and associates.
Not that kids or teenagers should not have the opportunity to be kids and teenagers but that should be tempered with responsibility and accountability.
We never had warnings like: Don't Do This at Home!
My money is on they have complete responsibility for going out and having fun - and they relish in that responsibility. If allowed to anyway.
I've had much time alone but also, equally, time with many others and it has served me well causing me to integrate all of my knowledge and experiences instead of compartmentalizing them like most do today...especially in politics and the sciences.
Watching that regained hope rebound into flourishing is tremendously fulfilling on a metaphysical level. You literally watch someone regain reality (and you helped).
Children don't have enough time alone for introspection. It is necessary for life and developing a "self".
Personally, I never compare myself to others nor do I compete with others. Much of my time is spent alone.
Try to better yourself and your own skills with every achievement.
Set your goals and achieve them (or at least be active in the pursuit of your values at all times).
Gain one good companion/friend. Someone mature and responsible whom you can trust and share with (preferably your mate).
Don't open yourself up too much to anyone else...not even family.
These are the things that have brought happiness into my life and have (mostly) kept despair far from me.
Sad for the families who lost sons and daughters , brothers and sisters.
The event of the day, today, was 40 people on the New Haven Green dying of drug overdoses...Wow...Now THAT is one strange and rare event.
The only things I expect out of life are those things I earn. However, due to the current structure of our society, I am usually disappointed in that I don't always get what I earn.
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