5 (Fake) Tips From the 1950s on How to Be a Good Housewife

Posted by  $  Olduglycarl 1 year, 1 month ago to Humor
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These tips, despite being listed suspiciously as "Fake"...these were very much the attitudes of my childhood, bar the submissiveness and knowing one's place stuff.
Just ask the "Leave it to Beaver" crowd.

Sounds like something out of the 50's but in spite of listing these tips as humor, there is a bit of common sense and a couple of things I wish my wife would take note. (nothing sexist here).

It is nice to be greeted when I get home and except for the greeting...(the dogs) I do like some quiet time and a good meal...after that, I'm ready to hear, (cringing) the disasters of the day.
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  • Posted by  $  blarman 1 year, 1 month ago
    Here are my five (REAL) tips:

    1) Greet each other with a kiss, hug, and loving look when you get home. This is far more important than hair or makeup (you've seen each other right after waking up after all!). Taking 30 seconds to enjoy a little physical contact can do much to ease the strain of the day.

    2) You've both had long hard days. So sit down and enjoy a good home-cooked meal (you can't fake the secret ingredient of love) and talk over everything. Listen to your spouse - both the good and the bad. Most of the time (looking at husbands especially), your wife just wants a sympathetic ear. Then do the dishes together. (Men) You might be surprised just how romantic this gesture can be. ;)

    3) "Five minute" clean-up time. This is for the children right before dinner. They get assigned some area to clean up and it has to be done before they are allowed to get up to the table. This must be a routine every day. There's no reason why those most responsible for making the messes shouldn't have to help clean them up. Even small children can help by picking up toys or emptying the dishwasher. (This also combats the entitlement mentality so prevalent in today's youth.)

    4) Divide and conquer. Traditional roles and responsibilities aren't out-of-date, they're common-sense division of duties. Men take out the trash and mow the lawn and women do the laundry because it is the most efficient. Agree on who is going to be the primary for the major tasks then adjust as circumstances demand - including hiring a temp if someone gets sick.

    5) Say thank you for even small things. It's a gesture not only of politeness, but recognition of what the other has done for you.


    And as a bonus:

    6) Learn how to say "you may be right". Arguments and disagreements will happen. This simple phrase can bring the tone of the argument back down to rational discussion by acknowledging the other person's assertions without unconditionally caving. It opens up the conversation by emphasizing that you are honestly listening and trying to see things from the other's point of view (as long as you aren't faking it) without dismissing your own opinions.

    (This last one was given to me by a marriage psychologist whom my mother-in-law paid for me and my then-fiance to attend prior to our marriage. It has been an invaluable source of wisdom and marital harmony in my 20 years of marriage.)
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  • Posted by  $  Dobrien 1 year, 1 month ago
    If you consider each other's needs and wants to have a better relationship , you will have a better relationship.
    I call it maintenance and oh yes love.
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    • Posted by  $  1 year, 1 month ago
      And that's, for the most part, what these tips were all about. Some of it was a bit over the top but good advice for the "Stay at home" Mom/Wife.

      But even in today's "working household"...things need to be ordered and a bit of quiet, a good meal and rejuvenation is needed before we start unloading our daily experiences.
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  • Posted by STEVEDUNN46 1 year, 1 month ago
    I don't see anything wrong with these suggestions except for the one about him saying out all night. Wouldn't. It be great if only one parent needed to work to support a household.
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    • Posted by  $  1 year, 1 month ago
      Back in the day, a dollar was worth more than a dollar by today's standards.
      My parents mortgage was 103.00 dollars a month and my dad brought home 200.00 a week from Pratt and Whitney Aircraft.
      Were we rich...by no means but food was good, local and cheap. We always had what we needed.
      It was a good life.
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      • Posted by STEVEDUNN46 1 year, 1 month ago
        I beg to differ. Look at minimum wage when I graduated from high school in 1964. It was 1.25 per hour. Gas was 30 cents per gal. My rent in 1965 was 65 bucks a month for a one br apt. Minimum wage is approximately 7 times the 1.25. Gas is about 7 times the 30 cents per gal. Rent is bout 7 times the 65 bucks per month for a one bedroom. And you can do those price checks on many other products. Of course I am comparing moderately price markets like the Harrisburg, pa. area I grew up in. Not looking at rediculousy expensive areas like LA or Chicago, etc.. My mom never held a job outside of the house. The difference today is what the expectations are for a standard of living. And of course the working people did not have to pay for millions of other peoples housing, food, a nd medical..
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        • Posted by  $  Dobrien 1 year, 1 month ago
          "Rent is about 7x$65 for a 1 bedroom apt."
          Thats $455 that's closer to 1980 rent.
          To better understand where your city — or soon-to-be city — ranks nationally, here are the averages for each factor from all 50 cities on the list: Median rent for 1-bedroom apartment: $1,234.43. Square footage of 1-bedroom apartment: 678.32 square feet. Cost of basic utilities: $147.06.Jun 8, 2016
          Most working class people don't live in Harrisburg, Pa.
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          • Posted by  $  1 year, 1 month ago
            That's just about what I found on a quick check...to live the life I did at 2.00 an hour would take 18.00 an hour today. We didn't have all the Insurance burdens nor the high taxes we have now either.
            A bag of M&Ms today is 1.00 in a vending machine, back then...maybe 5cents?
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            • Posted by  $  Dobrien 1 year, 1 month ago
              Well food is getting crazy expensive and the outlook Is for the increases to continue.GSM

              Shrinkflation has occured with thousand of consumer goods , masking some of the increase.
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        • Posted by  $  1 year, 1 month ago
          The lowest paid job I had in the 60's was 2.00 an hour and my rent at the Hotel Elton when I was 15 was 85.00 a month, I ate out every day and went out on a date once a week that cost me 5.00 including gas for the car.
          My view of those days is that you got a lot for a 1.00 and a few bucks to save to boot. That includes College books, just cause I was chasing a pretty girl 3 year older.
          Lost the Girl but got an Associates degree for my trouble before my counterparts graduated HS.
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          • Posted by STEVEDUNN46 1 year, 1 month ago
            What is your point?
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            • Posted by  $  1 year, 1 month ago
              "My view of those days is that you got a lot for a 1.00 and a few bucks to save to boot."
              Where you begged to differ...that's my point.

              You obviously had a different experience.
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              • Posted by STEVEDUNN46 1 year, 1 month ago
                My experience and your experience is irrelevant. How you FEEL about it is of no importance. What matter is----what was the buying power of an hours labor. These facts are fairly easy to find. I used the minimum W as e as a factor and the price of gas and housing. The problem is expectations. Most working class people were satisfied with a 3 bedroom 1250 square foot house and one car. Now people want 3000 square foot houses with 3 car garages, a bout, sss now mobiles, atvs, and lots of other goodies and two new cars. Thus the need for two full time wage earners. But if you want FEELINGS to be a big factor, I feel that the 60's mentality was better. My mom was always home when I got home from school. Those really were the good old days.
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  • Posted by LibertyBelle 1 year, 1 month ago
    An admonition not to complain even if the husband stays out all night would not tempt me to attempt to change my spinster status.
    (More than 50 years ago my grandmother told me about locking my grandfather out because he
    stayed out too late, [I do not know when the inci
    dent actually took place] and making him stay out of the place the rest of the night. After which,
    he said he would rather be kicked in the "hinder"
    [German immigrant town, although he was actu
    ally born in the U.S.A.], than locked out all night
    like that, whereupon she said "All right," and gave
    him such a kick).--I am glad to find that the "Tips"
    were a fake.
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  • Posted by EdGoldstein 1 year, 1 month ago
    Anyone that thinks these practical tips for a stay at home wife are over the top should look at the insane crap being spewed today in the name of feminism. "Toxic masculinity." "man spreading," hell, the list of truly insane ideas seems endless. I saw yesterday a story in the WoPo about some guy taking classes in how to act castrated to appeal to the feminist ball busters that surrounded him is DC.
    The PCBS world of feminism today is straight out of a SNL skit gone wrong.
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  • Posted by  $  Radio_Randy 1 year, 1 month ago
    I'm going to go right to the matter...sex (and other matters)!

    After a relatively short time, in a relationship, a partner's eye begins to wander. I noticed this throughout a (small) number of extended relationships, while I was still young. Maybe growing up, with 7 siblings, exacerbated the "absence makes the heart grow fonder" issue, but I believe it happens to everybody, at some point.

    After nearly 40 years of marriage, I've found that I have to frequently "remind" myself that my wife is just as attractive to me now as she was when she was in her 20's. I still ogle her, when she undresses for bed and make appreciative comments if I see her step out of the shower. Those, combined with an occasional wolf whistle, have extracted frequent comments of appreciation from her and have kept our relationship strong.

    I guess my remarks really should reference "How to be a good Husband".
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  • Posted by  $  Stormi 1 year, 1 month ago
    I actually enjoy "Leave it to Beaver", although I wish the mom was smarter. Remember they even had "finishing schools" in the day for girls. Watching soe old movie, our daughter then about 7, said she did not want to "be finished."
    My husband and I bot worked, I took time out to stay home with the daughter, then I went back to work when she was a teen.I am glad I did stay home and was able to catch the nonsense the public schools were feeding in place of academics. She loves "Beaver" to this day, which were then in reruns. Too many of her friend had families which did not eat together, did not talk at the table (cell phones) and did not share things from the past, like music, literature, movies. To this day, my husband and I kiss when one of us leaves the house, we talk over what each of us wants to do and plan eating out around it.It is just common mutual appreciation. I do not pick up what he piles on the floor of his office, I did not pick up after the kid once she knew better. The kid is grown, but the dog has to settle down or go in his crate at dinner. Nobody has "a place" in the pecking order, but we each have our own computer rooms, mine filled with books and his with sports-related and accounting books. I think there was a mutual respect back in the day, which is not a bad thing for today. Put the cell phones away, you are not that important!
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  • Posted by drthorn 1 year, 1 month ago
    Most southern girls know these things already. I had an employee that helped me keep things rolling with my family, when my 4 kids were little. It was nice to keep things in order, when I did not have time. But when my ER doc husband came home from his 24 hour shifts, we were all respectful of his need to regroup, eat and rest.
    Just mutual respect from a spouse that worked only day shifts.
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  • Posted by term2 1 year, 1 month ago
    Actually, if you remove the word "wife" and replace it by "mate" or "living companion", its not bad advice at all.

    Back in those days, the women typically didnt work, so they were in charge of the home and the children while the men brought home the bacon. So both the husband and wife "worked" really, and after dinner both could relax with the children.

    Nowadays, both husband and wife work, so they both prepare dinner (if they know how....). Not sure what happens with the children people seem to 'want' during the day, but they are probably farmed out to a "daycare" place.

    I do think that everyone should know their "place" in terms of how to treat other people, something that is TOTALLY lost today. Just look at the way drivers act on the roads to see that. Courtesy is gone.
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    • Posted by  $  1 year, 1 month ago
      You are so right...daycare has become a right and that's just silly, the children lose out and that's a concern.

      Knowing one's place...good one, we have that problem with this round of dogs, ( we breed Maltese) but they also are beloved pets.

      They complain and carry on when we leave, when they think someone is coming and mostly when we come home. It all seems to stem from a lack of pecking order, something our first beloved group seemed to have down pat.

      Not sure how we are going to fix that. But it does relate to nature and it's really not that different with human families either.

      I think that statement would send the left right through the roof.
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  • Posted by pamzt 1 year, 1 month ago
    Aside from content, I think the point was, How do you feel? We see the puppy ads, the poor children ads and we react to our emotions. The next time I get in a policy discussion, rather than rely on facts, I need to get to a persons emotion to win them over.
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  • Posted by CircuitGuy 1 year, 1 month ago
    This is a decent summary of The Total Woman from the 70s. It reads easily. It sounds like something from another planet to me, but it didn't seem illogical. She liked nurturing, and he like being an attorney. I'm cautious about "nurturing" becoming a duty to sacrifice, but I have no problem with it if that's what people like.
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    • Posted by  $  1 year, 1 month ago
      I disagree with all sacrificing, one might choose to forgo one thing or another but on the whole, one must take care of self first...otherwise, you can be of no help to others.

      Listened to a lecture on "selflessness" and as observed, most that perform selflessly are miserable and kind of arrogant in thinking; "only THEY can solve a problem"...we must have a balance between celfishness and a chosen cause to engage.

      However, Rand might agree with a good portion of these tips... Voluntary Value for Value exchange.
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      • Posted by term2 1 year, 1 month ago
        I think Rand would agree with them. There is a lot of value for value, and acceptance of what needs to be done to make the family work and agreement to just do it and not complain. For what its worth, raising kids is a pain in the ass when they are young and "needy". I would much rather dig ditches than stay at home and listen to the kids' demands (legitimate though they may be). Anyone who can do that has my appreciation for sure.
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