Passing of a Great Man

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I used to follow the exploits of Dick Hoyt and his son back when they raced. I was so impressed with this guy. I would have loved to meet him. He was inspirational to me. My only son has autism and to have a young son diagnosed with a disability like that or CP is devastating beyond words. What I've noticed in observing people over the past couple decades is that many young men in our society are not equipped to handle that as a father. Many aren't equipped to even be fathers - but that's another discussion. But, many (80% or more) just check out when they have to face this kind of tragedy. Still in our house there are little signs of the struggle we went through trying to save our own son. I haven't cleaned up many of them, but regularly look at them and think back of how tough and dark it was. In Dick's case, his son wasn't going to get any better. I actually CAN imagine that. But, that's where the spirit kicks in. Dick decided to not fold, but fight. I can relate to that.

I've not read a lot of Ayn Rand - Atlas Shrugged being my mainstay. But, I don't think she seemed to address parenthood at all directly. If she did, I'd appreciate a pointer to that. That's ok, though. Because being a parent changes you forever. And, I don't fault non-parents for spouting off a bunch of malarkey about kids/parenting. But, having a disabled child steeled me beyond words. If you're in a fox hole a guy like Dick or me is who you want fighting next to you.

Fortunately...my son's recovery has been fantastic. I'm pretty private about that anymore, because I had to learn things that our society is trying to hide in order to help him. And, frankly, that pisses a lot of people off. But...like I said - if you're in a fox hole...
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  • Posted by Lucky 1 month, 3 weeks ago
    Thanks Abaco. This is important.

    Children and parenting in the context of Atlas Shrugged have been discussed here.
    My view, Atlas Shrugged is not a universal primer on behavior, but the message and incidents in the book exactly fit with adult parent responsibility.

    Dick Hoyt. All I know is from your story. Dick Hoyt is an achiever and producer, he created understanding of autism and the problems of the parents. His actions are not sacrifice but struggle and achievement. Did the son benefit? Probably, he would have felt and relished the sense of purpose, and the getting to the finish line. This would have spread.

    Atlas Shrugged as a story is about steel production, invention and entrepreneurship, but the theme is on human effort, rational thinking, attainment of goals and the spin-offs for everyone.

    In all that, include yourself.
    Yes Objectivism needs some details to be filled in. Responsibility to others, Galt's Oath says, No. Responsibility for your own children is essential for human survival.
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  • Posted by VetteGuy 1 month, 3 weeks ago
    In the movie (part 3) there is a woman who mentions that she is home-schooling her children in the gulch because she didn't want them in an education system that didn't teach them to think for themselves. I did a quick scan of the book, and didn't find it in there ... maybe someone else can say for sure if that is in the book. However, I do agree that Ms. Rand did not spend much time discussing how objectivism relates to parenting. All the main protagonists in AS were childless. Maybe this was intentional. It's hard to be selfish when you have children.
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