When I was a boy, my pappy taught me to never start a fight, and most importantly, to never stand down from one. Always try to reason with the person, if possible; but when that fails, the only way to get a bully to cease and desist is to let them know the boundary, and let them know when they cross it. A bully doesn't understand reason, only force; and that is the means with which one must communicate with them.
Like an out-of-control child, if not kept in check, they will continue to push, and to cross the line, and then the next, and then next. Before you know it, you're cornered. Kinda sounds familiar doesn't it?
Speaking of keeping bullies in check, Cheers to Cliven Bundy and all his supporters!!!! On to Diamond Bar Ranch!!

If somebody physically hurts you just show that you are hurt - don't get angy?

Um...I don't teach my kids this. I teach them to not get hurt. I teach them to use their minds to avoid being bullied. But, if backed in a corner, to defend themselves. Kids should know how to defend themselves.

I, too, was one of the "bullied" by the "gang" of bullies in school. Went on for years (and was fed the same psychobabble this pamphlet spews by the "Well meaning administrators") until I had enough and beat the living tar out of 2 of said group... who then turned me in for beating the you know what out of them. (Looking back, I can say "What did I expect..." but then it just showed them as even worse wimps than they perceived me of being... Oops!)

Results:
1 - I got 3 weeks detentions for "fighting and violence", which after the 3rd day I was told by the babysitter, er, "detention teacher" I didn't have to show up - I was covered, just keep my head down. =~)

2 - After one feeble attempt to return to their old status quo (during, of all things, a gym class), which ended when I grabbed a convenient softball bat and took off swinging after them (with shouts behind me of "Lookit her go" and "Get'em!"), the bullies not only stopped their jacka$$ery, but avoided me altogether. They'd even turn around in the hall rather than come face to face with me. Must've been channeling some Anne Bonney or something... or maybe she was channeling Susanne. Heh heh heh...

3 - My group of "associates" - ok, some were even friends - grew exponentially. And yet some of my old pals (who were also on the "most picked on list") started avoiding me as well. Guess they liked being cast in the victim role or something... Bleah!

SO when I read that schools are STILL foisting this "blame the target, praise the attacker" psychobabble on kids to deal with a bully some almost 40 years later, it makes me furious. Mad enough to look for a softball bat again!! --lol--

I think we can call this approach to bullying the "go gently into that good night approach". No thanks, I'm teaching my girls to stick up for themselves. Bully pushed you? ... Push them back, Bully spews garbage out of their mouth about you? ... Spew some back, Suspended from school for sticking up for yourself? ... ok we'll use this time to go to an amusement park. Eat that public schools, I am the parent and I will undermine your propaganda and be sure my children see it for what it is.

Sooo, bullies AREN'T an enemy, they are a friend that we should let walk all over us so we don't provoke them into more bullying? What the hell is happening? The world has gone backwards and it will keep happening until WE stop it. ALL parents who received this should be at the school's front door in an outrage because other wise they are allowing the school to bully THEIR kids into believing bullshit. Why don't they teach taking a stand for what you believe in instead. THIS is the reason why we are losing our freedoms...teaching kids that laying down and taking is the right thing to do. And then they grow up and vote for weak, unprincipled, utopia promisers. Here's my suggested pamphlet for bullying. "Bullies are evil and need to be confronted or they won't stop. Do not be a door mat. Speak up and point them out and call them what they are. Avoid a physical incident, but if he touches you, fight back hard. It's your right to defend yourself and don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise."

There are a lot outraged people in the world.

It reminds me of an issue where a kid hit my 5 year old with a hula hoop. We were talking about it in the school.
"Just avoid those people who play rough."
"What if they come bother me?"
"Tell a teacher."
"What if the teachers don't come and they keep bothering me?"
"The teachers will help, but if they don't just grab a hula hoop and swing it hard with so the fastest moving part hits his face."

I'm not sure if the teachers heard me, but they may have. People need a Leviathan, in this case in the form of teachers who don't tolerate unwanted roughness.