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  • Posted by flanap 9 years, 5 months ago
    Let's just take rules 1 and 2:
    What should you admire? What should he admire?

    If these are not set by a standard which is fixed, then you really only have the potential for a revolving one night stand since your mind and heart (whatever combination of which you use to conjure up your admirable and admiration qualities) can change moment to moment.

    The advise is incomplete (and don't tell me "admire as a person" is sufficient because what that person's reasons for and decision making is what we are talking about).
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  • Posted by ddustin 9 years, 5 months ago
    I liked the beginning and the idea a lot but towards the end I stopped agreeing.

    "He's "not ready" for commitment, engagement, marriage? Mega-strike by spending less time with him, and consider dating other men."

    This feels like she wants to extort more out of a man than he want's to give her.
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    • Posted by $ winterwind 9 years, 5 months ago
      not extort, I think, but require.
      My objection is that it isn't honest. If you can't say "you seem to have cooled off lately. Is anything going on?" Mind-reading is not a pre-requisite for a good husband - although, after enough years, they can do it anyway.
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    • Posted by Dhagan 9 years, 5 months ago
      I don't think this is bad advice if the circumstances are right. Nothing will test a man's desire for a woman more than if she walks away. I don't think she intended this to be universally applicable, and certainly not at the start of a relationship during the "getting to know you" phase.
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  • Posted by CircuitGuy 9 years, 5 months ago
    [Insert shameless Roark and Dominique dating joke here]

    I liked the parts at the end where she changes the gender of the AR quote and where she talks about the virtues of being self-centered and having less drama.
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